flashgirl and Nick, Chico, CA, United States
I met Nick on Large friends and it was by accident really, I had gotten his wink and was writing him a "yeah, you live in Canada" letter but in mid paragraph he popped up and said HI and I thought what the heck its not like this is going to go any where and its nice sometimes just talking to someone who can just be their authentic self for once since I had already written this guy off due to geography (I wasn't looking to relocate that far) we talk and the more get chatted the more I liked him and so after six or so months he flew out and met me and my whole entire family...I come from a blended family and so family came out of the wood works to meet the Canadian I had been "chatting" with since we all know that long distance relationships don't work! so long story short I wanted to finish College and I had a few years left to go and he has work so we made the time and we traveled back and forth and around the 2 year mark Nick proposes a few days before New Years (which he presented me with a diamond CHIP) while playing a board game, my aunt whispered to me asking me if he was joking! I told her I don't know but I said yes and then he presented me with a much larger ring (love is joking side) any way we dated for 3.5 years and have been married for 4.5 years. We have a beautiful little girl and we may add another in a year or so...life is good even when we have to bail out the muck its nice knowing someone is by my side helping me and I him!
Advice to other members:
there are a lot of toads out there so keep and open eye and a open heart because there is someone out there for all of us. be true to your self and know what you want and articulate it so that there wont be any confusion and vice verse this way there is no hurt feelings and the other person doesn't have to "read" you mind! old saying... mean what you say, and say what you mean!