In this day and age of on-line dating, why the fear of putting up a photo? I was using the search feature on this site and after 20 pages, 10 profiles per page there are only one or two profiles with photos per page. I have been told that it is superficial to just go by photo. True, but do you really want me to finally meet you and you do not look like the picture I made up of you in my head? That would be a waste of both of our time. Please, I am old, decrepid and I still post my ugly mug for the world to see. I sure do not want anyone to write to me that when meeting, there is nothing about me that is attractive to that person. Just my two cents.
I do not like anybody who has no photo. This way, I call it fair. Why? Because people hide. People may be really from Africa trying to scam us. Sure, they also use photos but stolen from photographers taking pictures of models. So, that is why I admit I do research on the photo to make sure it is not stolen. You know that now you can do that? I also have a strict rule: I posted my picture, so should you too" meaning that it is fair I have my picture up and so is the lady should have hers up. Many times on other dating sites I was on or still on, I had to eliminate messages before read because they failed to have pictures on their profile on the list of inboxes. Some sites have no pictures shown on inbox so I have to check profile quickly and if it shows nothing, then I delete the message before it was read. Waste of my time.
People are like that too. Some people prefer to hide to make you like the person without shown. I did talk with one who refused to show picture and it was not going anywhere. Why? I need to know whom I am talking to. It could be a man! You know? I am still skeptial about the internet dating! Had bad experiences and one time, I met a woman who did not look like anything in the picture at all! She arrived in the airport and I had to look and look for her and I had to ask a lady if she seen this woman on the plane and she gasped and said it is her! See what I mean?
Another lied to me about appearance and weight. She described who she is and said carefully... I mean she painted differently than the photo she send me! When I got it about a month later, totally different than she explained and I got upset and said to her, why you lie to me?
It is like when you apply for a job, you make a cover letter and produce a resume for an employer and they can see the difference between what you said and what your resume say. On dating sites, your "resume" is what you say along with the picture. You can tell the differences (especially scammers and low English grammar).
So, strictly must have a picture. Those who do not want to show are best to talk with those without pictures as well!
I agree with you. I always wonder why they do not post pictures. It seems to me that the person is being discrete and covering up something. My opinion is just that, it is how I perceive it. Some may want privacy because of their status in the community or some other private reason, just don't expect a reply from the person that is contacted. There is nothing wrong or bad about being on a dating website, show your smile and enjoy the experience.