I can also relate to you. I've invested a lot of time into a couple of men I met. I was lied to by one and other one after more than 2 months,he just quit me. Now I was just talking to another man, thinking there was something could happen. He already is serious about another lady.But was also talking to me making me think I was SOOO special.
I'm ready to pack it in. I've just about come to the conclusion that the guy just isn't out there. It's getting frustrated, and I'm getting tired of the same old stuff.
I think i can be lonely sometimes, but happily single others. I get lonely when out with friends who are couples or somewhere nice that ide like to share with someone but other times its nice to not have to worry about someone else. I guess at the end of the day ide like someone who can be there for the couple times
I've only been in this group for a few days now, and I really signed up out of lonelyness and depression. I've been through 3 failed relationships already in life that I invested WAY too much of my heart in, and am desperately looking for someone else. I guess that makes me a glutton for punishment.
I'm at the point now where I have started to blame myself for the failures, but am trying not too. It's an easy train of thought to jump on. I WANT to believe that there's someone out there for me, though. I GUESS that counts as "hope"?
I go back and forth between being alone and lonely. When I'm in my garden, or while reading a good book, or driving to work - I realize how uncomplicated my life is. I don't have to stop to fix dinner for someone else, the dust bunnies can continue to gather under the couch, I can finish the chapter - no problems.
Then on the lonely days - I find it hard to believe that I would not be a wonderful addition to SOME man's life as an intimate friend. OK, I'm 58 and fat but I'm also smart, funny, caring, loyal...I have a lot of interests and would love to go fishing with or dancing with SOMEONE who would see me as special.
I hate to think that body shape and size are everything but they sure seem to be. I see A LOT of couples (I work in an area of work where I see couples) and often one or the other is putting up with some significant difficulties to stay in the relationship. But if you are a size 3, you're high maintenance - but cute. A size 22+ woman is likely to be seen as a pain in the b*tt. Interesting for the short term MAYBE. And if you are an aging Boomer....
I'm generally in the good enough zone for self worth but now think that seeing it differently is a mistake of logic.
So when I'm lonely, I know that I'm contributing to that. And that feels pretty sad and bad. No one to blame but me, no one to tell me I'm OK the way I am (obviously I'm not). That's lonely with no side story.
FAT men post seeking slim petite younger women. Presumably they catch some - at least some of the time.
Sea Eyed Woman (many qualities in common with a marine mammal - love of water and shape, like to eat fish...)
I really hope that you don't leave; you've been active here for about 2 years or so. There are plenty of men out here (the world) who are attracted to you through your posts AND because you're nice and (I think) attractive.
Just stay and make yourself better known. You're going to have lots of jerks who try to message you because they're ignorant enough to think that is proper behavior but just take the bad and attempt to wade through it and you'll discover many gems.
Rainnestorm write: Yes LonesomeDove I am. I have pretty much given up. The only ones interested in me seem to want just a quick hook up. I am extremely tired of that. I am a human being I have feelings, thoughts, dreams, ideas, etc. I am not a just a piece of tail. At this point I would rather be alone then someones dirty little secret, but damn I am lonely.
Yeah, I can relate to this - makes me feel I've wasted my time. Know what I mean?
I can certainly relate! I moved across the world for my ex, and I am now alone in this country. Don't get me wrong, I'm lucky that I have good friends (and my gorgeous daughter!) but it can be hard here with no parents or family about. I work from home so am in the house just about 24/7...ugh! I've tried so many times to get something going here....I joined this site and another, and am a non-paying member on 4 other sites, but nothing! :( Why is it that you can get so much interest, but the minute you email them your details and wait for a chat to happen, it never does??? I've got 6 guys , and haven't heard from ANY of them, nor seen them online....ok, maybe it IS time to give up and face the thoughts of being alone... God, what a depressing thought!!! lol Good luck to everyone, I'm sure we will all find that special someone someday!
Yes LonesomeDove I am. I have pretty much given up. The only ones interested in me seem to want just a quick hook up. I am extremely tired of that. I am a human being I have feelings, thoughts, dreams, ideas, etc. I am not a just a piece of tail. At this point I would rather be alone then someones dirty little secret, but damn I am lonely.
Sorry that you are lonely Lonesome ... I cant say that I am though... I have always been happy alone , I find that when I am single I am at my happiest, probaby cause of the dead sh!ts I have dated thats made it easy for me to say that ;) but I spose if that fanstastic guy came along I wouldnt tell him to take a hike ... ;) will see this coming July , when Mr NYC hits my shores ...
I hope your "Boy Dove" comes flapping his wings someday soon for you
Yes, I was recommended to another site that I have only been on for 2 weeks, and it seems much more attentive than here. I no longer am registered for LargeFriends. In fact, someone from here recommended it to me!