Why when I meet a man for the first time he wants to know my bra size, when can we have sex and what I will do to him sexually? He doesn't know me to ask that but men seem to think it's ok to say hi then ask such questions. No interest in me just my body. Please men and women alike tell me your opinion on this. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Is there some unwritten book or rules that state if your on the Internet then that's all your looking for?

Yes, it's true we've all heard the same song and dance over and over and its not a very pretty tune. Apparently if you don't know the person and you can't see each other, some folks decide that it is okay to be vulgar and disrespectful.

Thank god I found this and it's not just me feeling old and decrepit!

Yes, I am so fed up with having a so called 'chat' with a bloke who is looking for a deep and meaningful relationship, only to be asked 2 minutes into the conversation, what do I like to do in bed? how long can I hang from the chandelier? how big am I?........it is so predictable and very, very, very boring.

The spirit for which this site was meant for (i.e. meeting decent people) is being totally ruined, by some very ungentlemanly guests.

Gentleman change the record please!

hi claalysplace,

i like your profile and would like to be your friend too.

I agree with some of the posts on this forum, how ever it has been my experience that some men large and small
seem to feel that they do not have to be respectful and that Internet sites are open markets for sexual request and that they are not hurting anyone because its all about their own selfish
desires and needs. And that you may
be desperate or needy and have low self
esteem. To me BBW means Big, Beautifully
Made Woman and that includes my mind as
well.

Hi sxyblk, I have to disagree with some of the posts on here. I dont think it has anything to do with your name. After all, what is it about bbwchina that would say, ask me what is my favorite position as soon as you say HELLO? Also, I have a pic of myself in a short skirt and I've heard that I'm asking for that sort of stuff because of it. That's like saying a woman who wears skimpy clothes !! Everyone should approach someone else with respect and remember that they wouldnt walk up to a stranger on the street and ask the questions they feel free to ask on here.

But that is not just bbw! Even the other sites too! There are men out there who are just hounds and need to roll their tongue back in their tired mouth!!!!!

No you are not! The new trend in dating sometimes. When I put my profile out there I do not get too many responses because I stress honesty and being cool so it does weed a lot of trifling men out the mix but there are still some nice gentleman out there. Sometimes I turn it around and ask their size and have the nerve to get twisted!!!!!!!!! You already know when those questions come up in my mind I am saying NEXT!:)

It just seems to me, that most fellas take it for granted to act as if they have had twelve stiff drinks inside them when they approach women on this site. The need for only a small amount of general chit chat before asking inappropriate questions is the only way of communicating with a lady. If I felt the need for some berk to make comments on my chest then i will quite happily take myself to nightclub on a Saturday night slam back a few shots and then stand and wait. The art of being a gentlemen has been lost but I hope to be pr oven wrong!

I think that your dilemma stems from the newness of this type of communication and, unfortunately, ignorance and a complete lack of manners. People (men as well as women) see this type of communication as their very own "play-pen" where they are allowed to say and do whatever they desire without giving any thought to their reprecutions upon anyone else. This is the Internet (aka. Wild-west) and you are going to find many individuals whose mannerisms, ideas, social ineptitude and etc... just don't fit and aren't tolerated in society. So, like the old "wild west" this is the no rules place where they foist themselves upon anyone who they encounter. The best thing to do when you get one of these boorish communications would be to simply use your delete key with liberal abandon

Ok, so everyone keeps saying its the name. Yes, when you put sexy in your name, its going to make others think of something that may be different than what you intended. Also, though, society has changed. I have recently gotten back on the net, after a few years, and it seems everytime i go into a chat room, or someone msgs me on here, all they want to know is if i want to screw them or have any naked pics of myself... it wasnt that way when i used to come on... so either these guys are getting waaaay immature.. or they are just not gettin enough... idk

I agree it's the name... I got more responses under a different name when I was 20yrs old on the net, I found you have to find a name that fits you that isn't too suggestive and isn't too boring to git guys to notice you without being nasty. Most of my screen names have a tiger in it because it's my favorite animal but it's also sexy enough to git attention... but it's not as strong a sexual suggestion as some of the names I have heard before though. Definitely change your screen name, it might help.

I do have to agree with veni and Sweetie on this one...If your screen name is the slightest bit suggestive...It will encourage some of the "weirder" men who frequent the net, or those that are simply look for s*x.
Not that I am sayin you should not be proud of your sexiness....Just advertise a little less, might get you more of what you are looking for?

It just so happens that (some) men online are emotionally immature, and when they see names like sexy-this and sexy-that, they are drawn to them like moths to a flame. They may seem perfectly normal, even charming at first,but when it comes right down to it, their insensitivity and immaturity will almost always dissapoint or offend you.

You can avoid (at least a few) of the immature men who only want sex, and are insulting about asking for it...by not emphasizing your sex appeal online firstoff (As in naming yourself Sexy-this n that). Yes, be proud of your sexiness, just don't be surprised when it attracts the bottomfeeders.

I disagree Sweetie52..
Just because she feels good about her self.. And feels sexy doesn't mean she should be treated like a piece of meat..

C'mon let's be fair. If you're going to have something in your nickname or pic or profile that is se_xually suggestive, then don't act all shocked and surprised and offended that se_ x is what you get offered.

Hello sexyblkthang I completely understand what your saying..Honestly tho the majority of men on line.. Are really only looking for one thing.. Especially from bbws as they see it.. Were just there for there pleasure.. So don't be surprised if they don't care to talk about much else.. With some of them your Lucky.. If they wanna take the time to get to know your name its sad..Makes it really hard for the very few decent caring guys out there..

Unfortunately those days seem to be far and few between sexyblk ... but I am sure there are a few guys around that are still like that .... at least if a guy is upfront like that with u in the beggining then u know he can move on ... whats good for some isnt always for the other ... so as long as u stipulate that in your profile .... friends first and play after (possibly .. lol) at least that gives them a head start whether to persue or not ... good luck !