I believe that forgiveness cleans your heart and clears your mind. Its best to forgive and move on being bitter only
hurts you. Learn from the experience and
look for the warning signs to prevent it
from happening again.
You know that the Dante reserved the ninth and lowest level of he11 for betrayers, yes? I believe that if folks'd betray your trust once, they'd do it again. You can forgive him if it makes you feel better - but trustin' him again is a whole 'nother ball of wax. Integrity is everything.
kewannap write: Oh, I could forgive, but I couldn't forget.
What's the point of forgiving if you cannot forget?
I would guess the reason would be thats its good for the soul. To carry around such things as anger or resentment is not good. You should give it a try..I bet you'll sleep much better at night.
You can forgive someone, but that does not mean that you give them a chance to do it to you again. If you believe that you cannot trust them anymore, then forgive them and move on. Don't take the bad feelings with you.
This is a tough question. There are many kinds and intents of betrayal and also many levels of forgiveness. If you are speaking about a friend who betrays you romantically then it may be a good thing that it happened sooner rather than later. Also a "friend" may, either consiously or unconsiously, have the best of intents in mind. As I said, there are many levels and kinds so it might be best to first think about the depth of the situation and then evaluate what your options and their consequences might be.
I can forgive anyone, what I really admire is when people make mistakes and own up to it accepting responsibility. We are all human, no one on this earth has not been w/o doing something that hurt someones feelings or heart. It is the ones that get their kicks from it I question. If someone done something w/o realizing the hurt they cause then they must have it brought to their attention so they don't do this someone else who may not be as understanding. I tend to evaluate people sometimes and find out the motive behind their deceit. Then there are just plain triflin people out there with no clue of what it is to be human!!!!!
If it was intentional NO WAY!!!!!If they KNEW what it was they were doing. NO WAY!!! Well I guess its good to forgive for YOUR soul but say TATA LOSER and take what happened as something you needed to learn so if it was to happen again you will know what to look for BEFORE it happens. And always know YOUR BETTER than them and you know your life is stressful enough and do not need that CRAPOLA in your life. Goodluck and remember YOU and only YOU know whats best for your life. BB Jeanie
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To answer your question, it depends, i guess, on the betrayal, and on the friend too. Sometimes, people want to forgive but cannot. Sometimes, the betrayal is not worth spoiling a long-termed friendhip.
i don't know if that helps, we can about it with pleasure though...
In my opinion, it doesn't matter what he did to you. He's the one who is going to have to live with his decisions and actions. Dont give anyone the satisfaction of taking away your joy by filling you with bitterness and hateful, hurtful, unforgiving feelings. Remember, 70 X 7, is how many times we are to forgive. Doesn't mean we will always forget, and is good to learn from these times. Do your part and purge yourself of that ugliness. You'll be better off for it.
Once the trust is broken, it is virtually impossible to move on. There will always be the question in your mind if he/she will do it again. This is why the trust between two people should be protected and guarded because it is a very precious part of a relationship.
Well I guess that depends on how he did it?? Little hard to give accurate advice if.. We don't understand the circumstances a little bit.. Ya don't have to go into detail..Just a idea of what happened..Sorry to hear by the way.. Hope it wasn't to bad what he did..