Those here spouting the flames have no idea of what they are talking about. They have a very closed mind. I don't expect anything will change them so disregard the flames.
Work on what you've got. If it's not workable, man up, do what needs to be done and move on. Don't stay for kids if that is the case. I'm a teacher. Please don't believe they don't know. I see the dregs of horrible marriages in their eyes every day.
When all that is taken care of ... and only then, come back and do your thing.
Your respect and dignity will be here waiting for you, in the form of potentially interested women (not females).
JAN63, are you still around??? Am so glad you apologized to all the tomcats, after all, TC would hate to be thought of as a cheater with no morals... sighhhhh.
OK.. gonna go back and clean up the coffee I just blow over the keyboard when I read Jan's post.. Muhahaaaaa
I agree that if one is unhappy in a marraige she or he should get out...but... If you are older, the kids are all grown and out of the house... and your spouse seems to lose all interest in intimacy and will do NOTHING about it... things are different. In my case, For years my wife and I built a life together. At first we were like rabbits... had a great sex life, but then after the kids hit teenage, she started losing interest in all intimacy. I was so niave that I thought I could change things. I tried everything.. but counciling... my wife would not consider that - or talking to her doctor. As the years went on, she finally ended all our intimacy. I still love her and want to provide for her, but she is happy in her own world now of bridge and computer games. I cannot change her. She also has a host of medical problems which are bound to get worse. I cannot leave her. She needs me on many levels, but we are not intimate, actually seldom do anything together. So... I am looking for a lady who does not wish to get married, but does want a discreet, caring, devoted relationship involving intimacy. I have thought about this for years before going outside marriage. Once I did, I was amazed. I felt no guilt, had found a wonderful lady, got along much better at home, was not nearly so frustrated, and life was better all around. I can only say that those who fault me for going outside don't know what they are talking about... and have a narrow knowledge of human needs. John
I never got why if there so unhappy they don't just move on.. And I don't buy the it's for the kids thing..I came from a unhappy family life.. And belive me theres no point.. all you end up doing is hating each other in front of the kids.. Sad...
I've been thinking about my last post......maybe I was a little harsh. I was wrong to accuse this man of having the morals of a tomcat. I have no right to judge or comment on others. Everyone in life has their cross to bear and clearly this gentleman feels he has his.
I would therefore like to apologise, unreservedly, to every tomcat I may have offended with my comments.
Aaawww ladies.....don't be too harsh in your criticism......he's an unhappy, married man with children looking for some discreet fun.
Bless him.....he describes himself as honest, a christian and fun to be with (although his wife may disagree). Says he's looking for an honest, caring and respectful woman.
So ladies.....are there any honest, caring and respectful women out there looking to meet up with a lying, cheating (but christian), sad, married man with the morals of a tomcat?
