im married have been for 23 yrs and for the last 6 yrs I have begged for what I need out of our marriage everything goes ok for awhile then its back to him him him..as long as he is taken care of sexually he thinks everything is fine..so I have went elsewhere a few times and some have been great and some not so great but the ones that are great I love the feeling of at least feeling loved and wanted do any other wifes go outside of their marriage and how did it turn out for you?

I believe male chastity devices,and the lady holds the key.Would make many relationships much better.

Sadly it seems as though a lot of MEN loose interest in their WOMEN after the chase is over and some ten years has passed.... maybe some serious flirting (in front of your man) is what is needed to get him back on the right track..... and yes I have tried the do what makes you feel sexy thing and he will notice you again and it doesnt work if his (your man) is not wanting it.

.... i have recently started to bring up the topic of having an "open marriage"

What a shame that so many marriages turn out with one partner losing complete interest in the sexual part. That is very important. It is not everything in a marriage, obviously, but when one partner has a huge built in sex drive and the other has virtually none... it can be hell. When I married, my wife and I were like rabbits for about ten years... then she lost virtually all interest in sex. She felt this was normal and would not do a thing to even talk to me about it. I tried for some twenty years to get her to have some interest and pleasure in it... and nothing worked. NOTHING! So I went outside and found the world was a beautiful place. Sex, responsibly and artistically performed, can be a fantastic benefit to both parties. I suspect that one can never have sex with a spouse in the last half of the marriage as good as one can have with a lover! With a lover you can find that special one that is on your same level of enjoyment and it is more wonderful than my wildest dreams! I highly recommend finding a lover... with or without your spouse's knowledge. That is sooo much better than staying at home frustrated all the time... and your marriage will be so much better when you have a lover. You can be "friends" with your wife.. do things with her that you and she enjoys together... and "do things" with your lover that you and she enjoys together. I recommend it!

I haven't stepped out on my husband, and never would (without his knowledge...lol...) BUT, I have to say I am getting SO lonely! Don't get me wrong... it is good when we have it & he is still very interested in me; but for me, he is not very attentive any other time and ignores me all the time = EXCEPT when he wants it!! I feel like he only loves me for "it" and I have discussed my need for affection & compliments & TLC, but still I just get nothing until he wants "it". By that time I feel so bad about myself and so alone that I don't even want him to touch me... I don't know, does anyone else know what I mean???

I hear you there... as my husband of 23 years is the same way and they wonder why more women are starting to wonder off.

Im amazed at how many of you are married and on this site. Most of you are saying the same thing. Not getting what you need at home. This requires real and true thought as to where the problem really resides. Sometimes a change of thought is needed on your part. Do things that make you feel sexy, buy sexy clothes, walk sexy. He should start noticing you because when you are out other men will notice you. Give him just enough to drive him crazy and put his mind back on you like it use to be. Then just work it.

WHAT?!?!?! Is this seriously what I have to look forward to in marriage???

Priesthood... here I come!

i enjoy meeting other guys once in awhile but now i let him know i am going out and its a big turn on for him

do u swallow?

My hon and I are active swingers and I do love my men folks. I play while he videotapes me so I can watch me later and that can be yummy

I have met many nice and regular men to play with and we have a great time.

Sue in Cheyenne

I will have to say that my best lovers were women of all sizes who have been neglected at home. I am in that same boat as far as sex life at home is and have found that my Boudoir Photography Studio has been a wonderful area for women to relax in!!! let down their hair!!! and regain their sexual confidence!!! AND TO HAVE FUN!!!!

Patrick

well now I am not feeling so bad being on here its intreresting to know there are WIFES going through what I am and looking for the same thing I am. I have been throw off other sites.

I am of the belief that sex and love and romance are a language and like any language it muist be learned and SHOULD be mastered. Unfortunately some people refuse to learn it and don't speak it. That can lead to a lot of confusion.

I have the opposite.
My husband always pleases me first.
He would get nothing in return if he never.
But i am also lucky as i have played also, with his ok to that.
So got best of all worlds

Hey Needz,

Have you tried talking to your wife, perhaps even getting counseling BEFORE you step, or have stepped, out? Having been married over 20 years you were both relatively young and that was an opportunity to grow and explore sexual like and dislikes. You gave up too easily.

To all the ladies; I feel you! It is not so common, but I am another man who has been married for 20+ years and frustrated as all get out when it comes to SEX. I love it! Wish I could have it several times a week, but haven't had any for more than 5 years. Wife was never good at it. I wanted to bail the day after we got married. Women ask why I stay. I ask myself. It's not so easy to just bolt. I wish so badly that I could have someone who is in a similar situation, we mutually understood each other's needs and could take care of each other. Good sex is not easy to find! Any ladies in the Dallas area who can relate? We need to talk!

I feel your pain also, from the other side. My wife shows no interest in sex.
I have a strong sexual appetite, so I am looking here and other places for someone interested in sexual romance.

Maybe we could continue our chat on various ideas?

sammyy.

Angeliis07,
I feel your pain. Relationships are supposed to be 2-way streets. But sometimes one hogs the whole road. This could be sexual or career or whatever. Do what you need to do to get what you need. I wish you luck.

UrzaT47