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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Feb 11, 2010 23:21

So you meet someone online that you like enough to meet and get to know in person, how did you find that first meeting?  Was it as you expected it to be?  Did the person represent themselves truely?  Did you each want to see each other again?

 

I have talked to numerous people in my 3 years of internet dating, both men and women, and one of the most common responses I have is that that first meeting did not go as well as they had hoped.  For one reason or another they were disappointed.  Or even if it went well there were no further dates that resulted from it.

 

How have your first meeting dates been?



Life is only as wonderful as you think it is.

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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Mar 10, 2010 03:58

Sorry to hear that you went through this GreenEyes, have had this myself before and it can be perplexing as to what happened when things were going so well. I do know that I have had dates that I have enjoyed in the moment but when I have though about them later, well things did not always seem so good. This is not always about the date itself but about the possible future we may have together, or other little warning signs that I may have not registered during the date. Not sure if I would give him another chance, but do hope all future dates are just as good but much more lasting. :)


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Mar 06, 2010 15:49

I've only started trying internet dating; I enrolled in a popular site and met a a great guy. We messaged back and forth for a frenzied period of time, then we talked on the phone. We talked for hours and hours. We had so much in common it was amazing. We both felt like we were falling in love without having met yet but we wanted to be cautious and realistic. We agreed to meet, and had an amazing date. Spent 8 hours together talking and laughing over dinner and the sunset. We really got along so amazingly well. Then we exchanged a few emails and text messages and then I never heard from him again. I'm perplexed as we seemed to hit it off amazingly, and even his follow-up emails said how he was amazed at how well we hit it off. So what happened? I have no idea. But I'm not sitting around waiting and am still looking. If I do hear from him again, we'll see if we still click. You never know if it was a one-time spark or a prelude to a fire. In the meantime.....


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Mar 03, 2010 05:14

Thanks for sharing your stories, some of then a bit like a horror movie, Lammekea I think you win the prize for this one. lol Have any of you just walked out on a date or refused it? Have heard some men who have met women that were not who they showed they were in their photo just walk away. Do women do that or are we more tolerant?


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Feb 28, 2010 19:03

My honey and I hit it off immediately. We will have been together for five years in March. We talked on the phone fopr a month before we met. I was terrified that even though we hit it off on the phone, we would not be attracted to one another in person. I was so glad that I was wrong!


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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Feb 19, 2010 22:00

Let's just say it hasn't all been a bed of roses. While I'm not sure I can top lammekea's Hitler story, I once had a man on a first meeting coffee date say, "Well, my c r o t c h is feeling a lot better today." Right in the middle of a Caribou. Then again, I had a very nice time with someone new Monday evening over drinks, and we went to a movie and dinner tonight. So, it's not all thorns either! :)


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Feb 14, 2010 18:01

I've been internet dating now for a whole month so my experience & knowledge here is pretty extensive.  I recently met someone for the first time & it went well.  When we first saw each other we hugged & she told me I "smelled so yummy."  If I had any doubts they were gone when I kept seeing her lean over & smell my shoulder through my peripheral vision lol.  This is my only experience even remotely resembling a blind date.   I didn't really know what she looked like but didn't care.  All I had ever seen of her was a 2 year old picture that wasn't very detailed.  When I first met her I saw she isn't the typical type I've normally been attracted to but that's not important to me like it was when I was younger.   She was at an advantage with regards to knowing what the other looks like because she knew EXACTLY what to expect.  I read naught_bbw's comment & every photo I've posted is what I look like currently.  There's no flattering angle, no old skinnier photos, nothing.  What you see is what you get.  I don't know if what I said earlier about not my "typical type" sounds mean or shallow but I don't mean it in a bad way.  I love her sense of humor & talking with her.  And her personality honestly makes her one of the most beautiful women I've ever met in my life.



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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Feb 12, 2010 18:49

He was absolutely crazy!

I was dressed casual, but very feminine and i smelled and looked nice but he had on old dirty sneakers and a holey shirt with paint stains on it.  His hair wasn't cut... he looked like a bum.  He was musty and he called me "his little fatling."

What that hell!?!

We were going for sushi but the place he picked was closed... so he took me to Quiznos - a crappy little sub restaurant.  He sat there and talked about Hitler for 2 hours.  The people walking in and out of the Quiznos were all looking at me as if to say "Poor woman!"

Then... he had the nerve to lean over to me in the car and kiss me.  I was taken aback - well way more than taken aback... I was literally in shock because he was gross!  And how was his kiss?  If you can imagine lips puckering tighter than a mouse anus... that's what it was.  LOL... I can't believe that I still have a profile up!  LOL

 

 

 



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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Feb 12, 2010 14:05

Not done that for years and have no plans to do it. However, the one time I did it lead to a relationship for a while, probably worked because we were both completely honest. BUT even with that it was still awkward. He went to kiss me and we both turned our head the same way. He had a big nose and I was lucky mine was not broken!!!! But it was mutually painful :) Sooooo maybe in the best situation its still just like any first date... AWKWARD


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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Feb 12, 2010 10:04

I saw a profile I liked, clicked through the album, and made contact. We exchanged emails but it turned out he was almost an hour from me and that was too much at the time. So, the emails fizzled out. About 6 mos later, he emails me out of the blue. He had moved closer and was thinking about me and could we meet? We exchanged emails some more, talked on the phone, and arranged to meet for coffee. It was the WORST first meet ever - but he made quite the impression. We had picked a Denny's nearby. He assured me he knew where it was. He got lost no less than 4x trying to get there. He was burning up my minutes each time, trying to get me to guide him there but not able to follow directions while driving. I was on the verge of walking out. Then, he finally makes it there. He had a nice smile but his pics weren't quite up to the real thing. The pics were about 40 lbs lighter, taken from a more flattering angle, and probably on a box because he was shorter and rounder than any of the pics indicated (of course I was wearing wedge heels). When we walked to our table, I could feel his eyes on me as I walked and when I turned to sit, there was this rather look in his eye that made me wonder why I had done this to myself. Luckily, he was a fabulous conversationalist and he had a great sense of humor and by the end of it, I was almost won over. He walked me to my car and we said goodbye and I told him I would call him. But, then he leaned over and attempted to hug me. I think it would have ended right then and there if he'd made contact. But, he was very perceptive and able to read me (which isn't always easy to do, I've heard) and he took a step back and asked permission to touch me. He made sure I was safely in my car then got in his own and hesitated for a minute before driving off. (He told me later that he had meant for to make sure I drove away safely but then he remembered something I had said and made the right choice to drive off first.) I waivered about emailing him or not for a day or so. Then, he texted me a brief but touching message and he tipped the scales in his favor. I guess if I were more into physical attributes, I would have ended it just based on the real life vs pics. But, the conversation swayed me. If he had been a bad conversationalist, I would have bailed. If he'd smelled bad or touched me without asking or had lame jokes or didn't really have the education he represented or any number of things, I probably would have given the "it's not you; it's me" speech. But, I'm weird like that. Of course, before this one, I met a very charming guy who said and did all the right things and we hit it off and dated for 9 months. He was attentiive, available, and all that...then his wife called me. So, even if the first meet goes well and everything's swimming along, he can still be a huge giant pus-filled boil on the buttocks of humanity. Ain't online dating grand?


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