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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Feb 05, 2010 08:05

Ok Im officially insane!!!  lol  I just gave up my dream job, training people that are out of work on confidence, body language and how to present well at an interview.  Love this sort of work, did it in my previous job for 2 years, and the pay was great as well.

 

This job was full time, with a little bit of travel time, not leaving much time for anything else. Had to look at what effect this would have on my 3 boys, as being a single mum would not leave a lot of time for them, actually not a lot of time for anything at all.

 

So I have been thinking about starting my own business for a while now, doing the exact same thing, confidence and body language classess but also adding dating workshops into the mix, and eventually get to that book Im currently writing.  Anyway I have bitten the bullet and there is no turning back now, that is so scary yet exciting in many ways.

 

What I wanted to know was how many of us have faced similar decisions, where for what ever reason you have had a big decision to make, something that had the potenial to be life altering?  What was the outcome? Did you regret making that decision?

 

 

 



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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Feb 13, 2010 09:10

I wish you all the luck in the world. I think this is the perfect job for you....as you are so enlightened. I always love reading your blogs and seeing your advice/opinions. You go girl!!! Kris


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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Feb 11, 2010 21:33

Quoting smoosh

I don't think you gave up your dream job - you just haven't started it completely yet. You've been talking about your own business and writing a book. When the time is right , it will happen. You are such a strong person that it will happen when destiny gives you that extra push. Enjoy your time for you and your kids and work on your dreams. You will accomplish all that you want as you are a positive spirit. I will still wish you luck as it sometimes takes a little pinch of that.


Thanks Smoosh never refuse luck, can always do with more of that.  You do realize that my doing this will have me bugging the wonderful bloggers on here?  Hope they dont regret it later? lol



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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Feb 11, 2010 21:00

Quoting smoosh

I don't think you gave up your dream job - you just haven't started it completely yet. You've been talking about your own business and writing a book. When the time is right , it will happen. You are such a strong person that it will happen when destiny gives you that extra push. Enjoy your time for you and your kids and work on your dreams. You will accomplish all that you want as you are a positive spirit. I will still wish you luck as it sometimes takes a little pinch of that.


Thank you for the good wishes Butterbll, though being my own boss can be scary too ... not sure if I am so good at that.  Too easy to take time out and go to the blogs. lol xx



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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Feb 11, 2010 20:56

Quoting Babycakes63

Oz, These new bloggers are right. When I first started here you were a beacon of enlightenment! You still are! You have chosen the career that you love and are doing a dam*** good job of it! You don't need luck, you got you! Just do it! You know you can. Elaine


Elaine how very kind and generous of you, would give you a big hug is I could.  One of my "things" is to help people and to know that I have or may be of some assistance is so empowering to me.  You have just made my day!! xx



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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Feb 10, 2010 19:00

I don't think you gave up your dream job - you just haven't started it completely yet. You've been talking about your own business and writing a book. When the time is right , it will happen. You are such a strong person that it will happen when destiny gives you that extra push. Enjoy your time for you and your kids and work on your dreams. You will accomplish all that you want as you are a positive spirit. I will still wish you luck as it sometimes takes a little pinch of that.


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Feb 07, 2010 21:41

Yeah , but get to be you own BOSS. Not having to work for some SSOB can be a plus.Besides when one usally dies,I think 99.9999999999999999 % of the time they say "That they wished they had spent more time with theit kids , not at the job working." So Yeah the money might not be commming in buckets working on you own. However you have the freedom to spend how much ever time you want to with you kids. I aldso Agree with Nerdy Guy some Aussie Bloke Is going to be very , Very lucky to have you as a Partner . If he dont, I quess I'll have to start Swimming to you to Teach him a lesson


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Feb 07, 2010 21:39

Quoting one2one

You didn't give up your dream job ... you gave up what used to be your dream for a new and bigger one. One that fits better with what matters most to you and allows you more room to stretch and grow. You've expanded, and what you dream of now is bigger, too. Don't worry about if it will work or if it won't. Just take the next step. Write the business plan, or shop for office space; pick a domain name and start planning how you will set up shop. It is scary. Definitely. But the big regrets are never about the things we tried to do ... they're about the chances we didn't take.


Oh One2One you always have a way of saying the right thing, thank you.  You are right I now that the decision is made I feel really excited and feel I am on the track of what I am meant to do, and am going to put all my engery into it (well most of it lol).  xx



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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Feb 07, 2010 19:00

Oz, These new bloggers are right. When I first started here you were a beacon of enlightenment! You still are! You have chosen the career that you love and are doing a dam*** good job of it! You don't need luck, you got you! Just do it! You know you can. Elaine


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Feb 06, 2010 19:43

Quoting naught_bbw

Making changes and sacrifices are sometimes painful but usually worth the effort.  You have to be willing to believe whole-heartedly in delayed gratification.  That's not something that happens too often nowadays and people will think you're insane but, when you have a dream and a goal, it's worth it.

When I decided to go back to school, I worked a full time job and a part time job so I was working over 60 hrs a week.  Between work, family, and school, it was rough.  I slept very little, stressed a whole lot, and had to give up many "extras."  Some days, I cried from exhaustion and stress.  Most of my "friends" gave up on me, since I couldn't spend much time with them or go out with them.  My true friends supported me and made time to see me even with my insane schedule.  My sisters would take my tearful calls at all hours and tell me I could do it and that it was all worth it. 

My kid grew up with mommy doing homework along side him.  He grew up seeing that achieving your goals isn't easy but it can be done.  He grew up knowing that hard work wasn't a bad thing.  He grew up learning the value of money and time and that delayed gratification isn't always fun but it still ends in gratification.

It took many years and lots of work but, after I got my 1st degree, one of my sisters decided that since I hadn't gone insane and I'd been able to do it, she started doing the same thing. She juggled 3 jobs and school and when we both wound up finishing, we were so proud of ourselves and felt so accomplished, we were on top of the world. And our parents were beaming.

We've taken positions we both love (and hate some days) and we're both thinking about going back to school.  We're pushing another sis to do it too.  We'll be the oldest kids in class.  And, we all know it won't be easy.  But, trust me, there's nothing better than having a goal, working to achieve it, and crossing the finish line. 

I wish you luck and happiness and strength and courage in abundance.  May you reach your goal and be successful.

 



What an inspiration you are Naught, I dont know if I could put in the determination and energy needed to get through what you have done.  Congratulations you deserve every success you have achieved. :)

 

Thank you for your well wishes Im not sure whats ahead for me but I do know that this is something I need to do.  Glad to be part of that "insane" group that is having a go.



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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Feb 06, 2010 19:13

I'm studying accounting.  I actually went to college 15 years ago for a couple of years and was studying to be a bio-chem engineer.  My then gf got pregnant and I started working despite offers from my step-dad to help support us.  I ended up dropping out.  I went back a couple of years ago but decided to change my major to something that would allow me to have more free time, be flexible, and offered a bigger opportunity to go into business for myself.  So I chose accounting.  I earned my A.S. in accounting last spring and I'll earn my B.S. next May.  After that I plan to take CPA prep courses and possibly take my CPA exams which are supposed to be grueling by fall 2011.  I had kids young and my kids will nearly be adults when I graduate but I'm young and strong enough that if I meet a woman who either already has young children or wants to have children my body and mind can take the abuse that comes with kids lol.



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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Feb 06, 2010 16:08

Quoting NerdyGuy

When I decided to go back to school I had to not only cut back on hours at work, I had to take a different job that paid less.  At the time I was still with the mother of my kids and I let them all know that I knew it was a big decision that affected ALL of us and we'd have to make sacrifices but I also let them know very tactfully that I had made my decision and they, unfortunately wouldn't have any say.  It was something that I HAD to do and it would untimately benefit us all.  My kids accepted it knowing that Christmas might be a little leaner and pizza & movies on the weekend might be a little less frequent but their mother wasn't as supportive.  We started drifting apart and eventually the decision cost me the relationship.  I've put in nearly 3 years now and I'm over the hump.  Any monetary loss I've incurred during that time is far outweighed by the security my kids and I are going to have and my ability to pay for things like their education and weddings and whatever else might come up.  I can also meet a woman now who wants to be with me for me even though, at the moment, I'm flat broke lol.

Good for you that you made the leap.  Beauty, brains AND guts.  Some Aussie dude is gonna hit the jackpot! :)


Thanks for sharing your story here NerdyGuy I think you made the right decision despite the cost it had for you.  Though I do think it is a shame, but her loss.   It must have been hard for you to follow the course you set despite the residence from your then partner. 

I am finding it really interesting how many people are uncomfortable with my decision, thinking that I should have stayed within the security of the paid job despite the fact financially and emotionally it will never handle my needs long term. 

Having a partner that wants to be with you for who you are I think is the key here and any woman worth knowing will see the qualities you have and where you are going, and not focus on your bank balance.  I think you will have them knocking down your door. :)

By the way what are you currently studying?  Where do you see that will take you once you finish?



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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Feb 05, 2010 20:21

You didn't give up your dream job ... you gave up what used to be your dream for a new and bigger one. One that fits better with what matters most to you and allows you more room to stretch and grow. You've expanded, and what you dream of now is bigger, too. Don't worry about if it will work or if it won't. Just take the next step. Write the business plan, or shop for office space; pick a domain name and start planning how you will set up shop. It is scary. Definitely. But the big regrets are never about the things we tried to do ... they're about the chances we didn't take.


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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Feb 05, 2010 17:22

Making changes and sacrifices are sometimes painful but usually worth the effort.  You have to be willing to believe whole-heartedly in delayed gratification.  That's not something that happens too often nowadays and people will think you're insane but, when you have a dream and a goal, it's worth it.

When I decided to go back to school, I worked a full time job and a part time job so I was working over 60 hrs a week.  Between work, family, and school, it was rough.  I slept very little, stressed a whole lot, and had to give up many "extras."  Some days, I cried from exhaustion and stress.  Most of my "friends" gave up on me, since I couldn't spend much time with them or go out with them.  My true friends supported me and made time to see me even with my insane schedule.  My sisters would take my tearful calls at all hours and tell me I could do it and that it was all worth it. 

My kid grew up with mommy doing homework along side him.  He grew up seeing that achieving your goals isn't easy but it can be done.  He grew up knowing that hard work wasn't a bad thing.  He grew up learning the value of money and time and that delayed gratification isn't always fun but it still ends in gratification.

It took many years and lots of work but, after I got my 1st degree, one of my sisters decided that since I hadn't gone insane and I'd been able to do it, she started doing the same thing. She juggled 3 jobs and school and when we both wound up finishing, we were so proud of ourselves and felt so accomplished, we were on top of the world. And our parents were beaming.

We've taken positions we both love (and hate some days) and we're both thinking about going back to school.  We're pushing another sis to do it too.  We'll be the oldest kids in class.  And, we all know it won't be easy.  But, trust me, there's nothing better than having a goal, working to achieve it, and crossing the finish line. 

I wish you luck and happiness and strength and courage in abundance.  May you reach your goal and be successful.

 



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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Feb 05, 2010 14:05

When I decided to go back to school I had to not only cut back on hours at work, I had to take a different job that paid less.  At the time I was still with the mother of my kids and I let them all know that I knew it was a big decision that affected ALL of us and we'd have to make sacrifices but I also let them know very tactfully that I had made my decision and they, unfortunately wouldn't have any say.  It was something that I HAD to do and it would untimately benefit us all.  My kids accepted it knowing that Christmas might be a little leaner and pizza & movies on the weekend might be a little less frequent but their mother wasn't as supportive.  We started drifting apart and eventually the decision cost me the relationship.  I've put in nearly 3 years now and I'm over the hump.  Any monetary loss I've incurred during that time is far outweighed by the security my kids and I are going to have and my ability to pay for things like their education and weddings and whatever else might come up.  I can also meet a woman now who wants to be with me for me even though, at the moment, I'm flat broke lol.

Good for you that you made the leap.  Beauty, brains AND guts.  Some Aussie dude is gonna hit the jackpot! :)



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