Last night i had a big argument with one of my parents - it turns out that they had a VERY low impression of me which went beyond the typical parental criticism - i told them that apart from being deeply hurt, i was disappointed that they were capable of even thinking that of me and it also suggested that -despite me being such a bad person in their eyes, their love was as if they were doing me a favour!!
Since I KNOW i am not the person they described - i suggested the problem was with them, their fears, insecurities, etc - not me... I walked away upset, hurt and disappointed in their lack of maturity BUT happy that I judged myself by MY standards not theirs
It got me to thinking - how well
do we know our parents as human beings? are we always "children"?
do we always judge ourselves by our parents' standards (which may be flawed) or our own?
In my mind seeing the person in the parent- with all their flaws and issues and being able to separate the relevant and good bits from the bad bits - is a key transition to being an Adult human being...
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