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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Jul 20, 2010 10:18

Ok, so I'm a big woman.  I have no qualms admitting it.  

When I first joined this site, I was estatic to find a place where I could belong.  I looked at over 200 profiles and e-mailed or winked people. 

Responses:   ignore,  told I'm too big for them,  not their type, or only interested in super fast or casual relationships. 

I just wonder why most guys leave it up to the woman to contact them.  It makes me feel like I am super idiotic.  Why spend the time to look up the men when they won't do the same for me? 

Anyway, I'm just ranting but does anyone feel this way?



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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Nov 23, 2010 16:35

hey ladies, i love bbw's i came to this site to meet bbw's and a lot of you are small by my standards, my current girlfriend is 380 wonderful pounds.and i love her for her being who she is, my advice to all you big ladies out there is, dont let these fake men shake who you are there really are men out here that truely love big lady,s keep true to yourself and keep kissing frogs, one wil be your prince.


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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Nov 04, 2010 11:11

They are all good comments. My comment/rant is this,more men then not just want a distraction. I've spent the past hour looking at profiles of men in my area most are married and just looking for something on the side. Unfortunately it's been my experience at this that men in general, not all men mind you, thinkg BBW's are an easy target because we are lonely and hunger for any attention. I was married 23 yrs and have spent the past 10 single and in that time I have met less then a handful of single men who really are attracted to large women, not large breasted women but large women.


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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Jul 30, 2010 22:03

Okay first let me say I am sorry for any i will offend with I might say. It is not my intention. All of these sights are for people to meet. Simple and to the point. Before anything can grow a seed must be planted.that could be in the form of a wink comment or email. Once planted it must be watered and if all is good it will grow. So what is our intention, instant match, life long friend or " the one". My point being if we are too eager it comes through in what we say, how we act and so on. If we present that we are at the altar and waiting there is fear by all. If it to be friends first then the whole tone will be different. If the "match" is not there then we at least have made a friend that we can continue to associate with. If it is more, than there is a great foundation (friendship) to build on. So if I offended again I am sorry.


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Jul 28, 2010 22:33

UVALLY,I can only speak for myself.I cannot speak for most of the male of the human species. I Prefer a BBW over a twiggy woman. Yes it is true some men gravitate to a BBW because they assume it means a large chest . However they are in error because a bbw can have one large B, two B's,or all three in their figure. Some men freak out ,because while trying to get the Top B they also get the middle and bottom B in same or greater size. All the while they fail to realize, that what Truely matters is not her *reasts, Belly, or Butt size. I feel what truely matters is what is in her heart. whitetexasrose to reply to your querry " I was really wanting to know is why it seemed the females were almost expected to do all the work and the men do nothing? " I can only speak for me I try to do some work. I too have the same problem myself at times . there may be reasons why they only wink at you. My self been out of work for quite some time , so I don't really have an extra 30.00 to drop for the Gold membership. However in todays society it is becomming socially acceptable for the woman to be the pursurer. Twenty years ago it was not, so blame it on a being a modern woman and men not knowing where they stand . Because I feel some women want a man who is "in touch with his feelings" and cry at the drop of a hat at the smallest thing.Treat her as an equal treat her not hold open the door, not pull out her chair. Other women want a man to be "macho" hold open the door, pull out her chair and generally be her knight in shining armor . So It leaves most of us guys Totally clueless as where we stand.So I can only agree that sitting in the corner and hopeing "Mr . Right finds you is not the best statistically advantagious way to reach your goal. Get out and chat , blog , and flirt. You got to connect with people. Yeah ,you might have to shovel a lot of bull exhaust before you find your pearl. however the pearl you find will mean more.


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Jul 26, 2010 20:06

It's funny, I was discussing the topic of BBW/FA sites with a friend the other night who is also a BBW, and she brought up an interesting point that I didn't agree with at first, but I'm starting to agree with her now. It seems a lot of men *think* they want a BBW but some don't realize BBW doesn't just mean large breasts or just a little extra padding.  No honeys, we have LOTS of padding!!!

 

"AmuseMe" is right, though, join several sites & don't put your eggs in one basket.  The problem with a lot of these sites is the ones who interest me are too far away...  But still I keep hoping that one day I'll find my needle in a haystack.  I actually thought I had found him a while back on a non-BBW site, but sadly it didn't work out for a number of reasons, one of which being the BBW issue (and my profile even said I was a BBW!), so thus began my move back to the BBW sites.



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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Jul 25, 2010 01:48

THE SADDEST THING HERE IS THAT NOT ONE MALE MEMBER HAS SPOKEN OUT ON THIS TOPIC OR COME TO THEIR OWN DEFENSE. I AGREE WITH ALL OF YOU LADIES, AND I JUST JOINED THIS SITE. ALL I CAN SAY IS BRANCH OUT TO OTHER SITES, CREATE A BLOG OR GROUP WHERE YOU INTRODUCE YOUR SPECIAL "FLAVORS". I START OFF WITH "WHERE ARE MY LATINO MEN?", AND IT WORKS EVERY TIME. SO FAR, IN ALMOST EVERY SITE THERE IS A BBW/BBM GROUP. GOOD LUCK LADIES, WE ARE ALL IN HERE FOR PRETTY MUCH THE SAME REASONS AND YES, THIS IS A SITE FOR LARGE PEOPLE, IF THAT IS NOT WHAT THEY ARE LOOKING FOR, THEY SHOULD BE GRACEFUL ABOUT IT AND REMOVE THEMSELVES OR NOT JOIN. ;)

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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Jul 21, 2010 07:56

Ty for your responses.  It's not that I'm uncomfortable being dismissed.   I'm not.  I'd rather them ignore or just plain tell me there not interested than lead me along.  Your right about that and its a great point.

Another great point and there are more people here than I would meet in public.  I'm shy so that has a lot to do with it.

I guess my peev that I was really wanting to know is why it seemed the females were almost expected to do all the work and the men do nothing.  Though, I'll give you this, It isn't always that way.



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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Jul 20, 2010 16:20

I look at it from the point of view as how could you contact that many people while you're out and about and what kind of responses would you get ? less than 1% I'm sure. I think we expect more as site supposedly tailored for BBW/SSBW/FA/BHM - whatever you would like to call us - people. Really, it is entertainment value and some find some real people looking for a real relationship. Those who do are lucky and those who don't look elsewhere if truly looking and making finding a partner a priority. I no longer use this site to find a real person as most of them are too far away anyway when you don't have a vehicle. I enjoy some of the blogs and have made some friends - enjoy what you can and good luck. I also belong to other sites as no point holding your eggs all in one basket. Other "fishing" sites are free but you get what you pay for - limited information and access.


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Jul 20, 2010 10:26

Well, don't look if it upsets you so badly. All you can do is put yourself out there and hope for the best... don't dwell on the "weeds" as people like to say.. the roses are out there somewhere. And, you should be thankful that these people are being honest with you BEFORE you meet up with them. You aren't spending time talking and emailing, getting your hopes up only to meet, think you've clicked with this person but then you never hear from him again. I've been there and done that... it's not pretty. And yes, I have to say... let them make contact if you are so uncomfortable with being dismissed. My knight in shining is a needle in a haystack, I bet yours is too.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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