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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Mar 01, 2011 13:03

I'm new at this and very intimidated because its been a long time since I've dated. (I'm 52, retired) I have no idea what questions to ask a man if I ever get up the nerve to communicate. Questions that would show me what type of person is he. Thanks guys!

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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Mar 28, 2011 20:47

Well,If the fear of asking a guy is stopping you , Don't let it. I say there is only three out comes, If you ask him out. one is optimal. a nother is a major bumer. the last option gives hope. Option#1) He says YES!(Now you Got the problem of what to wear on the date. {LOL} Option Two) He might say No. This might be a bit upsetting.However at least you know to move on. Option #Three he might say I cant this week but lets try next week. weedybeedy I say just Do it! The British SAS have a saying "He who dares wins!" So I say Hope for the moon and stars, expect nada, . Normally the results one gets are some where in the middle.


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Mar 20, 2011 16:09

Thanks again Butterbll


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Mar 14, 2011 22:59

Since the Guys here are not burning up the blogs posting answers to your Question , and since you asked nicely here is a few I ask over the course of a budding relationship. 1)Do you have any children ? How active in their lives are you ? 2)Do you have any Pets? If so what type . If not why? 3)Do you like to Cook? What dishes at any potluck you take a dish to are you known for? 4)Do you like to garden? If so what vegatables or flowers do you like to grow? 5)Do you like to camp. Or is your Idea of Primative camping roughing it at a motel6 your idea of camping Do you like to go fishing? 6)Do you go to church? If so where andwhat demomination? If you do not go not why? 7) From your past relationships what have you learned from them. what are your bad traits , what are your good traits? 8)Given a choice of defensive tools for home protection what would you choose?


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Mar 14, 2011 07:43

Butterbll- I'm still waiting to hear the questions men ask,,,Thanks

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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Mar 13, 2011 12:47

LOL! OMG! Thank you for your input. These are definitely questions that I probably wouldn't think of unless I had the same experiences that you had! Thanks for saving me he grossness!

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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Mar 11, 2011 19:48

Well I have got to say that I have been asked #'s 1-4. But I have never been asked #5.No Lacey or Girly stuff in my closet or chest drawers. But been asked a few that I can not post here , because the P.C police would wipe the post.


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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Mar 10, 2011 13:06

I used to have a set list of FIVE questions that I asked right off the bat.. and the questions came about from past bad experiences, here we go: 1. Do you have good personal hygiene? Take a bath/shower daily and brush your teeth? 2. Do you have teeth? Either your own or false, but SOMETHING!! 3. Do you have a steady job or income of your own? 4. Do you have a vehicle or means of reliable transportation? And last but not least: 5. Do you have any articles of women's clothing in your home that do not belong to your mother, sister, daughter or ex? ie, do YOU have women's clothing that YOU wear? I can't picture myself sitting across from my date being envious of how HE puts on his makeup or if HE looks better in that dress than I would!! I guess everyone has their own set of opening questions, but those have been mine!! Good Luck! :-)


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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Mar 10, 2011 06:47

Thanks for your input too! Your suggestions are priceless and I do appreciate you taking the time to respond!

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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Mar 10, 2011 06:45

Butterbll, thanks for your input. I needed that! I'm happy a man responded. One more question. From your perspective, what questions can I expect from a man on the first conversations? Are they about the same as the questions women ask men?

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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Mar 04, 2011 18:09

When I first speak with someone I want to know who they are rather than what they are. I mean I want to know the person inside rather than what he is currently doing for work and such. To me these are far more important than does he have a job right now, for we all know how easy that is to lose. I like to keep it light, they are not going for a job interview and I want to see if they can laugh and have a sence of humour. Actually I never ask more about personal stuff early on, except to confirm that they are single. Dating is meant to be fun and all we are doing is finding out something new about a fabulous new person. Some questions that I would ask to show me more about them: How would they like to spend a day with their partner if they had no money? What has inspired them most in their lives? If they could have 3 wishes what would they be? What one thing in their past do they wish they had done differently and why? What are they passionate about? Where do they see themselves in 5 years time? How do they act when they are angry? What have they learned from previous relationships? These are a few that will get you started. I find that often you can have quite long in depth conversations and really start to know who they are as a person and if you have the same values and goals. Best of luck, its easier than you think, its all about starting and remember you only need the courage to want to learn more about them, this will give you all the "nerve" you need. :)


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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Mar 04, 2011 07:53

Welcome to the blogs weedybeedy. As a guy here are a few questions that would be normally asked of me . "Do you have a car ?"," Are you gainfully employed?"," Do you live in a home with your mother?" "Do you own your own home?","Do yo have any kids and Do you want more ?" "Are you close with your family?" " What are you goals for the next year, five years and ten years? " What are some of your hobbies?" " Do you like to cook?" Like both the ladies have said be careful not all you meet here have your best interests in mind when they chat with you.


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Mar 02, 2011 19:16

Hollaayyagurl-You and Qadesh are so pretty! I wish I had sons for you two! Thanks so much for your advice. I will definitely take this under advisement when and if I dare to partake! Blessings and love to you.


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Mar 02, 2011 19:11

Qadesh-thank you so much! Sounds like the voice of experience...I appreciate you sharing and your humor too! I hooped right at the beginning when you first mentioned ARE YOU GAINFULLY EMPLOYED? OMG! OH YEAH! THAT TOO! LOL. Thanks for the great advice and I'll keep you posted IF I try it. :)


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Mar 02, 2011 10:12

Hey Weedy! Welcome to the blogs. Questions I would ask would basically be geared toward seeing what they and and you both have the similar vision as to where you would want in a relationship. You may want to consider a variety of things. You meet people from various walks of life would you be interested in dating a younger gentlemen, of a different ethnicity, or religion? Many incredible men are out there but please watch out for the jerks as well. Just build a friendship and go from there. You will meet many different people just keep an open mind. If someone gives you a million red flags folllow you intuition. Just have fun and love will find you. Much Love.


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Mar 01, 2011 18:28

Hello and welcome weedybeedy. Start with this one are you gainfully employed?lol Retired? Are there going to grown children who are not going to act grown? Of course it's up to you to decide whether or not to ask these questions. Time and place for everything. As a "newbie" you must be ever vigilant to watch out for scammers. These men/women can be slick at times, however when the language doesn't read/sound the same, misspelled words, speak of undying love, widowed, children in school, or the hospital and money is needed, do not know the city that they have on their profile. The list goes on. There are sites that track scammers. Not everyone is nice. There will be times that you may think that you have some sort of connection, email, chat, talk on the phone, plan to meet and then never hear from them again. I have it figured out...lol on-line dating gives you the ability to be rejected from the comfort and privacy of your own house! lol Just prepare yourself for this. I haven't looked at your profile so I don't know if you have been married. This is the advice that I give you; the same kind of things that ever attracted you to a man will be the same things now. Give or take what you now know that you can't/won't allow/tolerate, live with/without. lol With age comes wisdom. Keep in mind that at this age we women come with extras! A job, a car, a house etc. Not that men don't. I'm just saying.... Just using some humor too. I still maintain I need a handyman. Could most certainly could use that kind of help around my house. Enjoy your new found freedom. Be prepared for the sublime to the ridiculous in the world of on-line dating, and dating period. Be well. Qadesh


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