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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Sep 14, 2006 14:15

I feel that if someone rejects me because I am in love with a white man, then that is THEIR problem. It has nothing to do with me, and I do not want or need their approval in order to be happy, even if it is a family member, (and I have a very close-knit family). Even though I know that several people in my family don't like the idea of interracial dating, they have not expressed that they do not like that I am with a white man. No one has said anything derogatory about my man and I--at least not to my face. What I do hear is that they are happy that I have found someone. Also, in the last three years, there have been at least two interracial marriages in our family. By the end of 2007, there will be at least two more, so they had better get used to it!! LOL!!


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Sep 03, 2006 23:00

you know i have dated out side my race befor i do not see your skin color what i do see is what is in side of you i have tryed to date a few black ladies but i have been turned down i sometimes wonder if it is cause i am white i guess i will never know but we should not see the color of there skin but what is on the in side


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Sep 02, 2006 23:08

I saw this blog and had to add my two cents...lol. I was married at 18 to my high school sweetheart who happened to be a black man. I never thought of him as such he was just the man I loved in high school. We raise 3 great sons together and divorced after 24 yrs because we fell out of love. I have dated Italian, Latino and Black men. I have no preconceived notion about men just want to find someone to love...and to love me.


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Aug 30, 2006 18:05

What does it matter what is on the outside. It is the inside of a person that counts the most. So if people what to look at race, color, or creed to judge people they need help.


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Aug 30, 2006 11:59

Hi everyone! Well I'm from a very small town...mostly white people. When I left & moved across the country, to a much bigger city, there were many different races. The people from my small town are very ignorant to different cultures. I find myself very attracted to black men and have dated several. I'm very close to my family and discovered my father would never accept. My mohter said she could try but not my dad. I did have a 1 yr relationship with a black man and when I told my parents, my father wouldn't talk to me for a month. So I guess you could say I was stuck in the middle. The relationship ended for other reasons but it always stuck in my mind that it couldn't really go anywhere anyway, unless I was to be cut off from my father. Now I don't date black men. I don't think it's fair that my father puts me in this position. I love my father and I wish he would see things differently.


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Aug 29, 2006 15:31

You Go Girl!!!! I applaud for you for your comments and Openess about your relationship. I admire women and men like yourself. who don't care what people think because at the end of the day it's your decision and noone else. About 10 yrs ago I had an opportunity to date this handsome white gentleman and I blew him off because of my fear of what people thought. Now I wonder what it would have been like to gotten to know him as a person and not look at him on the outside. I think it is important to give each other a chance no matter what's on the outside. because you could be passing up your husband or wife. Thank you LOL


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Aug 29, 2006 11:17

I hear about the "problems" associated with dating someone of a different race, but I would like to know what they are or are percieved to be. I am in a relationship with a white man. He lives in a southern town which is predominantly white. His home town, which we have visited together several times, is predominantly white. In fact, I have seen less than five black people including myself in all the times that we have visited. When seeing us, no one can mistake that we are together: We hold hands all the time, he opens the car door for me, we hug one another around the waist when we are standing in check out lines, even give one another a quick kiss at stop lights when we are driving. In the year and a half that we have been together, we have not had one problem about race. According to my man, people stare at us quite a bit and he sometimes brings it to my attention. What's funny is that I never seem to notice it. Maybe it's because as a tall full figured black woman, people stare at me all the time. Maybe they do so because they cannot believe that I am so big, yet am light on my feet. Maybe it is because I am large, but don't feel the need to cover everything up, but choose to show just enough to get someone's imagination going. Maybe it is because I have just recently cut my hair and now wear it in a super short afro that they are just dying to touch. Because my man is about 4 inches shorter and 150 pounds lighter than I am, maybe they stare because they wonder how he is able to "handle" me. Maybe they stare because they see the big smile on my face when I am with him and KNOW that he is "handling" me quite well. (OK, I am degressing now). What I really want to know about is these "problems" that I hear about with interracial dating. And I am sincere in my question, because I have been in one for a year and a half and have not had any.


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Aug 29, 2006 09:51

I'm not against interracial relationships. To judge somebody purely by the color of their skin is just plain ignorant. I have been in an interracial relationship and it was wonderful, but occasionally you get stares. They make good and evil in all colors, shapes and sizes. It's what's in a person's heart that matters.


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Aug 29, 2006 04:52

I am 49 years old and have ONLY dated BLACK men since I was 18. I married a black man in 1983 and had two children with him. We divorced in 1998 only because he was mean and didn't know how to keep it in his pants. I don't care what SOCIETY thinks about interracial couples, they DON'T PAY MY BILLS and I will continue to date only BLACK MEN until the DAY I DIE.


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Aug 29, 2006 00:35

Hi, I went to a multi cultural senior school so colour was never an issue. The skin is purely a cover, like the cover on a book. Its the content thats inside that really holds your attention, like a good story. Hope this helps.


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Aug 28, 2006 09:12

Hi, I want to thank you for all your comments on this subject. I am a grandmother so that gives my age away. I am emailing a genlemen who is black, white, with 2 different american indian in his background. Now what color would you say he was? His skin is dark. I have his picture and can see all the differnt natonalities in him. We plan on meeting after he gets back from Knsas. We live in Washington State. He is going to see his Mom who is in a rest home. She won't know him but she is failing and he wants to see her.


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Aug 26, 2006 14:19

Personally I dont have a problem with it at all. I have been dating outside my ethnic group since highschool. I like variety and no restraints on who I should be in love with. ONE LOVE!!!!!!


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Aug 26, 2006 07:33

I haven't had a problem dating outside my race, never have. The way I look at things is I don't care what color a man's skin is or what country he's from. What's most important to me is the way he treats me.


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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Aug 24, 2006 15:43

I have been dating interracially since I was a teenager, but not to the exclusion of my own race. I am an equal opportunity dater you could say. I think a person should be treated as an individual taken on their own merits. I have found that it is more accepted in some regions than others, but all in all I really think it is a matter of preference.


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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Aug 24, 2006 08:07

I've had an interracial relationship before and although that aspect may add a few more problems/tensions i found it very intriguing. so i'd do it agian anytime.


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