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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Jun 04, 2007 14:46

Ever been asked the question - How many partners have you been with? and wonder yourself how many is too many ? I think it depends on the age of the person, the time frame the partners are spread over and the situation. So.. what are your thoughts? less than 10, 20, 30 , too many?


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Jun 20, 2007 20:29

Re: Thunderheart44 write: Honeybiscuit what a life you must lead,you have men falling all over themselves for a chance to worship at your feet. You do bring out the best and worst in men it seems,I'm dying to know what your secret is. lol

Tee hee - key phrase is "worship at my feet"


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Jun 20, 2007 09:44

To many or not to many is in the eyes of the beholder some think 10 is good some think 10 iwas way to many so it really is all up to you about how many is to many


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Jun 20, 2007 07:31

Yeah I actually know of one long term (like 20 years!) couple who have an agreement that when an ocean or large body of water is between them that they can "sleep" with others! They also agreed to be descreet and to not tell each other when they are acting on the agreement. shrugging. And then there are the so called "poly" households and relationships and then the "open marriage". Don;t know that I could handle that kind of relationship myself but the wasy folks find to make their lives suit them is absolutley fascinating and wildly creative. Hats off to those who can make it work for them.


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Jun 20, 2007 03:40

Honeybiscuit what a life you must lead,you have men falling all over themselves for a chance to worship at your feet. You do bring out the best and worst in men it seems,I'm dying to know what your secret is. lol


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Jun 19, 2007 21:28

I had a fellow ask me to date only him before we had even gone on our first date. I said that I could not do that - being exclusive was not an option till we knew each other much better and I owed that to the other fellas I am already dating. Who knows where things are going yet with them. He immediately cut off all comunication. It was interesting to say the least and I have to say someone being that demanding of me ever let alone before our first date was a deal breaker for me!


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Jun 19, 2007 04:35

I really liked your, uhh, reasoning about it not counting in foreign countries. You have a great sense of humor, kid. I admire that in a woman. Of course being attractive doesn't hurt, either, dig?


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Jun 18, 2007 22:53

my only comment, if you have an encounter in a different country, it doesn't count towards the big number ;O)

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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Jun 18, 2007 11:14

Exclusive means you have committed and discussed it whereas dating can be varied - as long as you don't lie about obvious questions about other dates/friends/lovers, I think as many as you can comfortably handle without too much juggling is fine - we're all adults ( well most of us - lol ). We all have different limits and I would hate to use the wrong name and it isn't realistic to date guys all with the same name now is it? How else can you find and compare what you are looking for without a representative sample?


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Jun 13, 2007 13:58

Ok - so line ups are good in an orderly fashion as long as the lines are well marked with the veltvet ropes and the Maximum number of participants is 215 before the alarms go off. I have lots to go to reach anywhere close to those numbers so I'm not even in the running but I'll get those poles and ropes installed just in case I have to beat them off with a stick - you guys certainly lighten the load.


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Jun 12, 2007 18:44

Re: honeybiscuit write: Whew boys, Smoosh called yall out big time. (pretend there is a list of letters here that means I am laughing hard) Okay I do have a question though - how many is it okay to be seeing (individually) at one time? And if you never promised exclusivity do you have to be explicit about the fact that you are not being exclusive? I am currently dating several people (in person) and so far all has been just fine - but I have never done this before and I keep looking over my shoulder waiting for the trouble to start. Am I playing with fire or just being a grown up? I must say dating more than one fella at once is a lot of fun and seems to take the edge off of any one guy or developing relationship. Cause ya know how we women can over analyze things esspecially early on which just freaks men out....

When you call one of them by another's name, that's when it's too many...no lie!!! LOL You know, why limit yourself? Dating doesn't equal commitment. And if no mention has been made regarding being exclusive, then what the heck. No holds barred. If you enjoy it, then so be it. If one were to ask if you were seeing someone else, it would be best to be honest but I don't necessarily see the need to advertise that fact. You're dating, not planning the rest of your life!!! The two boys that I spend time with now and again do know about each other. Just happens to be the way my particular situation works. But neither one of them are potentially serious, live-in interests either. Above all they are my friends and we have a good time together. Until my heart is struck, I shall enjoy myself and live life as I wish (well, even if the heart is struck, I will still do as I wish...*wink*). Whether I date 1 or 100, it's all good until I can't remember their names!!! hee hee hee...the more the merrier!!! Especially in that tree house in Turkey!!!


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Jun 12, 2007 15:31

Re: honeybiscuit write: Whew boys, Smoosh called yall out big time. (pretend there is a list of letters here that means I am laughing hard) Okay I do have a question though - how many is it okay to be seeing (individually) at one time? And if you never promised exclusivity do you have to be explicit about the fact that you are not being exclusive? I am currently dating several people (in person) and so far all has been just fine - but I have never done this before and I keep looking over my shoulder waiting for the trouble to start. Am I playing with fire or just being a grown up? I must say dating more than one fella at once is a lot of fun and seems to take the edge off of any one guy or developing relationship. Cause ya know how we women can over analyze things esspecially early on which just freaks men out....

IMO, there is no correct answer. It is about what YOU are comfortable with. If you are dating 5 men and there has been no talk of exclusivity; 'Ain't nobody's business what you do' Chances are they are also dating other people so depend solely on YOU for safety.


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Jun 12, 2007 13:29

Whew boys, Smoosh called yall out big time. (pretend there is a list of letters here that means I am laughing hard) Okay I do have a question though - how many is it okay to be seeing (individually) at one time? And if you never promised exclusivity do you have to be explicit about the fact that you are not being exclusive? I am currently dating several people (in person) and so far all has been just fine - but I have never done this before and I keep looking over my shoulder waiting for the trouble to start. Am I playing with fire or just being a grown up? I must say dating more than one fella at once is a lot of fun and seems to take the edge off of any one guy or developing relationship. Cause ya know how we women can over analyze things esspecially early on which just freaks men out....


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Jun 12, 2007 06:11

Re: bitterman405 write: Okay I've thought about it some more. 216 is too many. Up to 215 your good, but at 216 and beyond it gets a little scary.

Oh, cool. I'm good to go for another year or so. Awesome!


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Jun 11, 2007 18:10

when the line rounds the corner I usually bring out the velvet ropes and the tak-a-check machine


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Jun 10, 2007 08:06

Re: jjiggl write: ..."that really isn't a lot when you consider that there are billions of people in the world."

LOL, you are 100% correct. That is a fabulous answer. Too many [men] seem to think quantity beats quality...and I must add, women too at times...


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Jun 10, 2007 08:03

Re: bitterman405 write: Do you mean total partners, or partners at one time?

he he he...


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Jun 10, 2007 06:04

You just opened a whole new topic.... all on your own - one at a time please in an orderly fashion - what are we going to do with you bitterman? ( and no - I'm not joining the congo line ) and Bizzle - of course "real" people so get to work ! - pillows, blow up dolls and stuffed toys don't count. (they are right up there with the dreams and lusty thoughts)


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Jun 10, 2007 06:03

You just opened a whole new topic.... all on your own - one at a time please in an orderly fashion - what are we going to do with you bitterman? ( and no - I'm not joining the congo line ) and Bizzle - of course "real" people so get to work ! - pillows, blow up dolls and stuffed toys don't count. (they are right up there with the dreams and lusty thoughts)


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Jun 09, 2007 20:14

Re: the_dude_abides write: As long as the person is safe and we get along, the number of partners in the past doesn't mean much to me. Obviously, if its 1000 or something, I would begin to question the motives of the person, and if their definition of LTR consists of dinner and a movie.

Dude, if the count is 1000 or more I think LTR may not come with dinner OR a movie. LOL!!


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