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plumcrazy
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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Aug 06, 2006 15:28

Just had my first experience of getting totally played on this site. Thought I had a lovely thing going with this guy, thought he was the salt of the earth, but then I find out he's a total liar and con artist. I never thought of myself as a gullible person, so now I feel like an idiot. The irony is, I wasn't looking for a long-term thing. He could have had just what he wanted if he had asked. But instead he had to misrepresent himself to me and a lot of other women on this site. What's up with that? Anybody else have a similar experience?


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Oct 15, 2007 00:15

I do not much look at the personals side anymore. But on occassion I will get an email and the pict is just too slick or professional... even the supposedly casual picts don't quite add up. And then you read the email...same sad sack story...my wife died 4 years ago, I am raising daughter by myself, I am an importer or some other odd job that means the distance "is of no consequence". These fellas are never down the street but always a plane ride away. Now if I see a profile like that I report them, asking LF to check them out and they are always removed and I get a thank you form LF. Oh and the english in the profile is much more literate than it is in an email and immediately you are the love of this persons life when they know not a thing about you. Yeah...trust your instincts. If it sounds all fantasy and dreamy then it is - no point in even risking it. If a fella is active on the boards and somewhat sentient then you can verify them more...their voice is consistent in the way they write etc and yet we still have trollers and players on the boards too...generally word gets around or it is obvious though. The worst scenario I encountered was with a fella I met through the boards...he was just messing around online amusing himself and I was being serious...oh well live and learn..but non internet life is like that too. So my advice overall: Stay close to home, if anything smells off - like they only write you during work hours etc. take a closer look - or outright ask or push the issue. I mean look at betterman, bizz, butterball, timothy, and some of the other fellas...one can tell that they are genuine no problem.


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Oct 14, 2007 16:58

Yep, I feel ya sister! Feel free to check out my players blog and add the sad sack to the list so we know who to stay away from..;) Try not to let it get ya down, keep an open mind and try to keep any and all connections on here in perspective and you will do great chickie!! good luck to ya. Keep rockin! -RR-


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Oct 13, 2007 19:15

I've met a few wierdos who like to try to win you over too soon. I've had a few that were really pushy, wanting too much, too soon, and I always just listen to my gut. If it tells me it's wierd, then I ditch 'em! Usually, after corresponding for a bit, you can gather SOMETHING of value that you can search to validate, on your own. If you can find no eveidence of this person in, on, or near the planet, nor the company he claims to be working for, then it's a pretty good sign it's a bogus identity. I'd bet my right butt-cheek if someone HONESTLY owns a business, he/she won't mind disclosing the name of it, or atleast dicuss a little of the workings (and you can work from there). That's what I did. I met someone, who seemed too good to be true. He had no qualms about sharing where he work(s) with me, and I did the same. I looked the company up online. It was a plus, too, that when we did finally call eachother, my caller ID had the same company name in to attached to his number. I really just try to use common sense. NEVER meet in a private location, never meet someone in a hotel room (lobbies are ok, down stairs or in the parking lot, outside--umm daylight, please!), REALLY pay attention to the slight innuendos in writing and in person first contacts, listen to background info. and remember it for later comparison. And, if you are really lucky, he won't mind swapping identification on your first date. I would think that only a really suave scam artist would actually have fake identification, so maybe you can atleast rule out the philandering husbands or persons who lie about location, jobs, and or age. But, for those men who are elusive: you can use various tools like Google, Better Business Bureau(s) for individual states, company websites, and the various scam-artist warning websites. Good luck to all--True


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Oct 10, 2007 03:34

You should post their names up here and report them to the people who run this site.


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Oct 08, 2006 22:21

Yeah, I have run into many of the African cons. {This does not mean they are African, it usually means they are on contract there or say they are.} There are many of them, women are in it too. Last count that I know of were five. Three men, that I have run into, and two women. But they change their identities often as well as their pics. I am on many sites, and I have run into them on those sites as well. When I know or suspect that it is one of them, I contact that site. They must be reported, at least to the site. The give away is that their English sucks, when it appears good, it is something pretyped. They don't know geography, and they profess love to quickly. ON a positive note, I have run into many good guys as well. I have spoken to what feels like hundreds over the course of 2 years. I have met perhaps 20 and have walked away making around 6 good friends. NO second soul mate yet, but all this is still a plus. I have found this site to be better then the others. At least on this one, most do talk. A good male friend had once told me -go into the sites expecting nothing, and if one good thing comes out of it, then you will have had success. He also says if your not waiving a flag then NO one will know you are available. So to all of you that have been burned hang in there and DO NOT GIVE UP.


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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Oct 06, 2006 08:42

Well i was played by a man off of this site, he came from glossp and only wanted to meet every two weeks, wondered what was up then got contacted by one of his other "friends" from here, I love the idea of a warning board about these men/women, however there would be the possiblilty of misuse by certain bitter people.


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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Oct 06, 2006 02:24

Me, too! The orphaned American guy working in Africa had me going till he gave me the story about being mugged and robbed, etc. I told him it smelled like a scam and never heard from him again. He went by George Child (child4luv)and, I suspect, Craig and other aliases, but at least one of his profiles has been removed. I wasn't too upset because I had not allowed myself to become emotionally invested yet. HOWEVER, I also corresponded with another guy named Patrick Brown who stood me up - TWICE - and left me totally devastated, so much so that I think I'm just going to be content with my friends and pets and stop the insanity, at least for awhile. Easy to get laid, hard to find love.


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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Oct 05, 2006 17:16

Oh yeah...the guy who is on business in Africa helping the orphans, no less, who, of course, need my help as well, if only I can do so. Right. Give me a break. First off ... pics are way too perfect to be real, and I knew that going into it, just wanted to see what he'd have to say. Second, he's telling me he loves me in our first chat. Yeah. Right. I guess I was lucky and he isn't as smooth as he was with you (or maybe it's a different guy who picked up on a good scam). My take on it all (and I have met some great guys from online sites and some real losers) ... is that it's just like real life ... there's good guys, there are bad guys, there are liars, there are cheats, and then every once in a while you find the gem. They're few and far between ... but hey, how many does one girl need? I still haven't found him yet, and know the chances of doing so online are so-so, but I'm here and who knows? I hope that you are able to do just what you said and dust yourself off and get back out there. A lot wiser, a little more cautious ... those are good things!! Good luck :)


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Oct 04, 2006 09:56

Hey girl! I know what you mean. I knew not to trust guys on line. I met a nice guy from Italy. We have been friends for 3 years. He finally jumped ship on me! But you know what you call a mean boyfriend at the bottom of the sea?? A good start! LMAO.. huggs


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Sep 17, 2006 21:40

Ok, I too have been tricked a few times but they say that you have to kiss a few toads to find your prince. And once you weed out all the fakes and loosers you can really find a great guy. I met a guy on this site and we just celebrated our 1st year. so, please dont let these awful vain men who are out there for kicks ruien your quest in love.


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Aug 29, 2006 01:42

Dear Blondy, No need to name the guy in my case. His profile has been removed, and he has left the country. He may re-appear under a different name, but I have no way of knowing what that might be. Sorry!


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Aug 28, 2006 20:29

Cant you women name names? Cant you all please warn others of these liars, scammers, cons? It is just letting them con the new people and letting them run free, I feel it is better to put the spotlight on them, if they change their names, update the blogs, lets drive these weasels out of here.


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Aug 28, 2006 20:28

Cant you women name names? Cant you all please warn others of these liars, scammers, cons? It is just letting them con the new people and letting them run free, I feel it is better to put the spotlight on them, if they change their names, update the blogs, lets drive these weasels out of here.


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Aug 26, 2006 07:12

I had the same experience on an another website myself. To briefly sum things up. He was a independent contractor who lived in Chicago and travel everywhere for his job. He have one son and no parents because he was an orphant(that was suspicious in it self) He was hired to do some contracting work in Africa and while he was there he asked me to call him. but I told him I did'nt have long distance and for he to call me (that was advice from a friend) He insisted that I call him and that I get long distance. I confronted him and he gotten mad and I never heard from him again. So Ladies be careful. I was naive and gullible. but now I know what to look for in a con artist. It is very unfortunate that people make a living hurting and conning women out of money. Good luck in your search for Mr. Right.


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Aug 23, 2006 10:18

First time on site and right out the shoot, yep, player. four weeks of fun, he even went as far as going off the site because quote "no more looking." But when it came time to meet gues what, Mr. Perfect never showed up and I never heard from him again. He's back on the site now with a new name and picture but he's still the same sleezy snake. So my Sisters tred lightly, carry a big stick and put your game face on. Mr. Right is out there you just have to kiss alot of toads first.


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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Aug 17, 2006 11:29

All I can say is Ditto! Guess the guy's from Africa don't read the blogs. I had two in one week try that stuff on me. The first one kept getting his names mixed up and was way to mussy right off the bat. Guess they think we American women are either really stupid or really desperate! I am neither! Girls all you have to do is ask enough questions, write down the answers and goggle them! There are any number of sites to find out information on people. any real guy will have no problem giving you information you can check out! Don't be a sucker for love.


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Aug 12, 2006 19:27

I've not been played like you have. I have though had many men wink me and we chat for a bit, maybe even talk on the phone just to disappear. Whats the deal with that?! If not interested, just say something don't disappear with no explanations.


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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Aug 11, 2006 13:26

sweetsal (and other ladies): If the guy professes his love for you immediately, he is a scammer. If he is in Africa on business, he is a scammer. If he is in the "import/export business" and is currently in Africa, he is a scammer. If you ask him where he is from and he just says the US, he is a scammer. Come on, how many Amercians won't tell you the city and state if you ask them where they are from. Don't ever believe them. They are very good at what they do and we just have to be better at spotting them. When dealing with the internet, it is safer to err on the side of caution.


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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Aug 10, 2006 14:57

Ladies, please do not let these jerks ruin your trust in men. Yes, I have been played numerous times and it hurts every time, but you have to believe that not ALL men are out to mislead you. Let me give you some pointers to help you weed out the jerks. First of all, ask a lot of questions and write down their answers (or save your IM's) and ask them the same questions but in different ways over the course of a week or so and see if they are consistent in their answers. If they lie, tell them you just caught them in a lie... tell them what their previous answer was and then tell them to never bother you again. Second, if they will only give you a cell phone number and are only able to talk to you during the week, they are married. Don't believe anything else. If a person is on the up and up, they will have no problem giving you a home number after a few weeks of talking online or on the cell. I would go as far as insisting on an address that I could verify was his home address (you can search for it online). I would explain to him why I was asking for his information and that without it I couldn't trust that he was telling me the truth. If they are lying, they will run like the wind. If they are for real, they'll have no problem telling you whatever you want to know. Just remember, that they may be dealing with their own trust issues as well. So be patient. Thirdly, listen to your gut. Don't let the fact that someone is interested blind you or cause you to take your guard down. Be suspicious until they prove themselves to you. Finding someone online can and does work. I met my fiance on this site and we are getting married in October. So, yes, there are a lot of good, decent, honest men on this site. Unfortunately, you have to weed through a lot of idiots to find them. Be patient. Be persistent. Be perky! Happy Hunting!!!!


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