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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Mar 20, 2009 16:47

Hey to all you lovely peoole in blog land.? Wanted to throw out some thoughts on something I cant get my thinking around about some of the guys out there.?

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Now I believe that a woman can get sex any time she wants, she holds the power in this, and if she in not all that fussy,?sex is available to her at her will.

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Ok hope you agree and are with me so far?

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So have to wonder why some men think that offering me sex will entice and interest me?? I think I am quite clear about this in my profile.

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Even after I have?told them that I am not looking for this and have this available at hand if I wanted,?it still does not stop them.

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It feels a bit like offering a person that lives on an island a trip to the beach.? lol??

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Do they have nothing else to offer?? Do they lack personality?? Or do they just think?that I?am desperate for it?

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What do you guys and girls think?? Is this a basic nature of the beast? lol?

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Though in saying this are we women the opposite, do we offer?friendship, relationships and love, and discount the things that they cant get enough of?

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P.S.? Watch how fast the "views" count moves because I have the word "sex" in the title ..... interesting. ? he he he



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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Apr 14, 2009 09:02

Some really great comments here, from all and many I would agree with and others I am still trying to understand.  LOL

 

 

Nat - Yes we all have lots of the "just want sex guys" and its easy to blow them off ... parden the pun LOL  Though many of the ones that I refer to in this blog want something long term ..or so they say.  They do invest the time to get to know me and make an emotional and intellectual connection to some degree, but once they think they have made this... well the focus then seems to turn to sex. Does make me wonder if they are being genuine at all?

 

 

Brideportkid - I agree with Aimeefla, and that you maybe right about this.  Though if you are right I do think that we "females" are doomed.  I totally understand the man that is not developed enough in social or dating skills behaving this way.  Though I am talking about intelligent and articulate men, charming men, that have developed social skills, yet still resort to this behaviour.  The sad part is that is the majority rather than the minority ... do have to think about what this says about the male species?   

 

 

 

Jazbo - LOL You are cheap!  Do think you could just leave off the ' if i was offered a pizza and a pitcher of beer" part. Really if I forgot the pizza and beer would you refuse?? he he 

 

 

 

Trailclimb - I find this really interesting ... are you saying that once rejected that the women you speak to then persue you for sex?  Wow really?  Though maybe if you are giving yourself and your time and establishing a connection with a woman, her interest then increases and she is ready to move the relationship forward.  Though somehow I dont think that you have meant this is what is happening?  Would like you to explain this more if you can.

 

 

 

Largeboy1951 - LOL yes you got it, that just what i mean.  Loved the joke. :)

 

 

 

 



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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Apr 14, 2009 06:49

hey butterball, i agree that they should have more to offer, but in my case they did not. i have tried three times at being married to mister right, All i got was mister lazy three times and divorced three times.I am a bbw have been divorced four years and am just now starting to look again. I feel that most men only want me because they think i will be grateful for the attention, as i am a bbw, but that is not my case. I have become a vey independent woman and i dont need a man to take care of me, and although i miss the intimate times i will not get involved with someone in that way until i know there is hope for a long loving relationship.


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Apr 13, 2009 15:48

Quoting BridgeportKid:

Sex is all fine and good, the most beautiful experience in the human condition. I don't "offer" sex. If a man is "offering" sex it is a fairly accurate indication that he is interested in sex and not much else. Not a few of these "gentlemen" pursue large ladies solely to have sex; the penile satisfaction is more important than the development of a meaningful relationship. These sorts of men pursue large ladies out of the belief that it is easier to get them into bed, guys with poorly developed social skills that don't know how to approach ANY woman, so they go after those they percieve as emotionally weak. I'm attracted to BBWs, full-figured women, pick the coloquialism of your choice. I'm attracted to women of this physical type. I enjoy sex as much as anyone, but there has to be an emotional/spiritual connection before play time is a possibility.


Hi OZ,

I very insightful blog my dear :-)

I want to say that bridgeport has something in his reply. I think that there are many men that think of a BBW as "easy" to get into bed. Replacing sex and physical intimacy for emotional intimacy.

I've been approached, as we all have, by the guys that want nothing but sex. When I turn them down flat POOF goes the magic twanger Froggy. I'm glad that they show their lack of personality and leave with their "tail" between THEIR legs.

Men only need a place to have sex, women need a variety of reasons. No excuses here


Natalie



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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Apr 13, 2009 07:59

what is this soggy fruit salad...


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Apr 11, 2009 21:05

I'll offer a woman "imtimacy" not sex. But no means no. However, many women are "shook" when you don't make a big thing about it. I'll just drop the subject and THEY'LL bring it back up! I think women don't like the rejection..and as a consequence, they pursue me. Guess I'll keep doing what workes! LOL


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Mar 30, 2009 21:17

Quoting hd2000:

hi sugar, methinks you do protest too far. although you do say (in your profile)?you are "not lookiing?for casual fun", you have prefaced this by saying "don`t??forget (i`m)?sexy" and that you are passionate (sexual overtones (????) ..) and that you "think the?physical side of a relationship is important". on top of that you are very pretty. the mistake you made here girl is that you overrate the intelligence of the average joe on this site, ...... they may lack personality, they may think you are desperate, but basically you have to realise they are mainly non too bright, ........ in my honest opinion, x



Hey honey bun, lol now I have to say you made me smile here, but left me speachless as well.

 

Now what are you saying here?  That because I say that I am sexy and passionate, that this should be the only focus on my profile?  Are you?

 

Now granted this area of a relationship is important to me and I do not and will not hide it, but my profile does say a lot more than just that. (Well I think it does)

 

Maybe it does show a limited mentality from those that put this as focal point of who I am and what I want or have to offer? 

 

Do men have a radiar toward certain words, while they quite obviously ignore others?

 

Now I will give to you that some may take this wrong way, but it does not excuse the constant persistance, even after I have told them that this is not the only thing I am looking for.

 

We are here to sell oursleves in the hope of finding a partner, friend or something more.  We all have different things we put up for sale, and  want from the other person . 

 

Now like every good sales man knows you need to offer something unique and that the person feels they need or want. 

 

Offering me that thing which I already feel I have in abundance ... well yep, thats just plain stupid. :)



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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Mar 30, 2009 18:01

Quoting islandgal64:

I think Butterbll may be right in some instances but I also have another perspective. Some guys have very little real experience with women; not just sexually but emotionally or even platonically. They may not have sisters, female friends/ acquaintances etc - or they may simply not have taken the time to observe how the women in their lives really are. The 'net has opened up more opportunities for them to talk to women - maybe most of their work/social activities revolve around other guys. They know they want female company, but it's slightly uncharted territory to them. Unfortunately the 'net has also opened up other channels for them to look at women. They browse "naughty" sites, watch some action, decide they want some for themselves. Sadly, for some of these guys, that becomes their main point of reference for women. We become objects for sex. Because they are 100% motivated by the dangly bit between their legs, and the women they see and read about on the p0rn sites are all about getting it on, they believe ALL women are just driven by sex. There's a chance then that such guys, although likely inexperienced sexually, will not only put sex on the table very quickly (metaphorically speaking, lol!) they will probably be talking of threesomes, toys, use of all possible orifices and all manner of other "kinks" way before your average woman might think it's appropriate to even consider raising the topic! Then of course there are the chancers who just keep trying, and no doubt for every "x" number of rejections they must get a positive response. Presumably enough positives to stop them re-thinking their approach! Those are some of my thoughts on the matter ... interesting topic Oz.


Yes Islandgal, do agree that some do not know how to engage and get fixated into this subject topic.  Got to admit it can be rather stimulating but not the be all and end all.  lol

 

Yes maybe they are just driven by sex and cant see beyond the point of their...mm you know.  lol

 

Though you would think they would wise up when they are told point blank that this is not something I need, not something I am in short demand off...  maybe they think that I am delusional here?

 

I know that if I was selling pens and you told me that you had more that you knew what to do with, I would quickly find something else to try and sell you....or lose the sale.

 

Though then again I dont have something that drains the blood from the head on my shoulders and leaves me feeble minded.  LOL



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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Mar 30, 2009 17:48

Quoting butterbll:

I may get this wrong but here goes.Because that is all the have to offer a woman is just sex.Because they are immature and selfish.?A Real man would have?more?to offer a woman than two shiveled grapes and a soggy bannana.He would offer her Intilectiual stimulation also, as well as? supporting her in her other emotional needs.Just a thought .?



LOL just love the way you have phrased this Butterbll.

 

Do have to say that the ones with "shriveled grapes and soggy bananas" do not the do the offering often. lol

 

Usuall get the offer that is of the ripe and hard fruit variety, lol, guess they feel confident enough to boast about it???

 

Seriously now, yes I do have to wonder how mature and emotionally secure they are if they hold that part to such importance and think its enough to keep us women interested.



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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Mar 30, 2009 17:40

Quoting truefriendinme:

Consider the source. Given who this likely comes from, it's possible it might be the only thing of value--which is an eerily gross thought! I believe if someone goes directly to the zipper when I am not ready to do the unveiling, then they really aren't worth my time. It's just too much too fast. There are too many guys out there I can get it from, if I so chose. I am not one to be drawn to that type of offer, and I know you aren't either Oz. It's difficult to expolre why ANY man does these things, much less a man who is only known to us via internet or online encounters. My opinion? Don't bother with the "Why?" It's only important if you are considering the "Why Not?!" :) --True


Yes True thanks you are right in your opions here.

 

Though I am not talking about the guys that are so obviously out for that, with that being their primary motive.  I am talking about some men that I have spoken to where we have got to know each other quite well and conversation has led to a more natural intimate arena.

 

Now unless they are lying, and thier motives are actually sexual but covered in wanting a relationship, then I find it complexing.



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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Mar 30, 2009 17:17

Quoting Qadesh:

Hello Oz, Still waiting for the answers to that damn Mensa thing!!! To answer your question I believe that men offer sex due to the fact that they may think that no one else could do the deed better than they could perhaps. No one offers me anything!!! What's wrong with that picture? lol The male psyche is intertwined with such mixtures of ego and sex. That is not to say that women do not have that but we have class and finesse...for the most part! Hope all is well in your world OZ Qadesh


Hey Quadesh, oops sorry forgot to post the answers to that one, will do it soon.

 

I do think you have something here, I have lost count of the number of times that a man has been sure that he could do it better, or do me better should I say, lol, than anyone else has.

 

Maybe it is just an ego thing but then again I guess there would be only one way to prove it, and maybe this is what they want? 

 

I do have to say that I dont think many women would feel the need to offer to prove how great they are in this respect.  Just shows how different we really are.

 



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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Mar 22, 2009 17:58

right on, I'm sure you have no problems in that area. It's really nice just to be together without alot of those concerns and just have fun...


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Mar 22, 2009 17:29

i would be receptive to sex if i was offered a pizza and a pitcher of beer.

bill



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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Mar 21, 2009 17:27

Quoting hd2000:

First sentence was correct, .. you are wrong, ...... then you just drifted into aimless, ungrammatical hogwash.



Hmmmm... You seem to have brought out the the intellect in Hd, Oz! (rolls eyes...) Butter: I agree. SOME men are exactly as you described. BTW- I understood perfectly what you wrote. Oz: Well, Hd's answer should explain it all for you. I know it does for me! (NOT) Obvioulsy, the problem with receiving unwanted sexual advances and overtures is ALL OUR FAULT! The women's written profiles and tasteful pictures are to blame! NOW it makes PERFECT sense! Someone....quick! Stop me before I write something intelligent or charming in my profile! Must..... ..........not........ appear.......to be pretty or..... .....well-spoken! Damn! It's just too hard to be sutpid! Oh well. Guess we'll be single forever, Oz. Beter than being in a relationsip with a moron. --True


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Mar 21, 2009 10:49

They are probably just hoping you will say yes!!!!!... When they offer...One track minds.



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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Mar 21, 2009 07:58

Sex is all fine and good, the most beautiful experience in the human condition. I don't "offer" sex. If a man is "offering" sex it is a fairly accurate indication that he is interested in sex and not much else. Not a few of these "gentlemen" pursue large ladies solely to have sex; the penile satisfaction is more important than the development of a meaningful relationship. These sorts of men pursue large ladies out of the belief that it is easier to get them into bed, guys with poorly developed social skills that don't know how to approach ANY woman, so they go after those they percieve as emotionally weak. I'm attracted to BBWs, full-figured women, pick the coloquialism of your choice. I'm attracted to women of this physical type. I enjoy sex as much as anyone, but there has to be an emotional/spiritual connection before play time is a possibility.


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Mar 21, 2009 06:34

I think Butterbll may be right in some instances but I also have another perspective. Some guys have very little real experience with women; not just sexually but emotionally or even platonically. They may not have sisters, female friends/ acquaintances etc - or they may simply not have taken the time to observe how the women in their lives really are. The 'net has opened up more opportunities for them to talk to women - maybe most of their work/social activities revolve around other guys. They know they want female company, but it's slightly uncharted territory to them. Unfortunately the 'net has also opened up other channels for them to look at women. They browse "naughty" sites, watch some action, decide they want some for themselves. Sadly, for some of these guys, that becomes their main point of reference for women. We become objects for sex. Because they are 100% motivated by the dangly bit between their legs, and the women they see and read about on the p0rn sites are all about getting it on, they believe ALL women are just driven by sex. There's a chance then that such guys, although likely inexperienced sexually, will not only put sex on the table very quickly (metaphorically speaking, lol!) they will probably be talking of threesomes, toys, use of all possible orifices and all manner of other "kinks" way before your average woman might think it's appropriate to even consider raising the topic! Then of course there are the chancers who just keep trying, and no doubt for every "x" number of rejections they must get a positive response. Presumably enough positives to stop them re-thinking their approach! Those are some of my thoughts on the matter ... interesting topic Oz.


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Mar 21, 2009 06:30

LMAO, shiveled grapes and a soggy bannana, thank you, thank you for starting my day with a smile.


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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Mar 20, 2009 21:45

I may get this wrong but here goes.Because that is all the have to offer a woman is just sex.Because they are immature and selfish.¿A Real man would have¿more¿to offer a woman than two shiveled grapes and a soggy bannana.He would offer her Intilectiual stimulation also, as well as¿ supporting her in her other emotional needs.Just a thought .¿



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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Mar 20, 2009 21:34

Consider the source. Given who this likely comes from, it's possible it might be the only thing of value--which is an eerily gross thought! I believe if someone goes directly to the zipper when I am not ready to do the unveiling, then they really aren't worth my time. It's just too much too fast. There are too many guys out there I can get it from, if I so chose. I am not one to be drawn to that type of offer, and I know you aren't either Oz. It's difficult to expolre why ANY man does these things, much less a man who is only known to us via internet or online encounters. My opinion? Don't bother with the "Why?" It's only important if you are considering the "Why Not?!" :) --True


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