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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Oct 20, 2006 15:54

So the truth is, I hate my body. I am a confident person and express my opinions: I just am not confident with my body. My whole life I have been 'over weight' even as a child. I have curves, tall, people are always saying I am gorgeous...But I don't feel it and I don't listen. I have been on a diet and fitness plan and so far it is working. I have lost 20 inches overall so far and 10 pounds. (toning muscles more than loosing weight) I am doing this for me! I feel unhealthy and disgusted quite frankly. It's not like I want to become an anorexic bone thin girl. I want to be beatufil in my eyes, not in the eyes of the beholder. Anyways...I waas wondering if i could get some encouragment. I hope none of you will think less of me; I need positivity more than ever. Just talking and sharing experiences would be nice. You guys ROCK! Kissy PS: I really do need encourament!!


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Dec 17, 2006 23:28

Kissyroo, I'm sure you're beautiful! You sound sweet and sound like you have a wonderful personality. Hang strong, girl! If you can lost the weight or just maintain the weight, more power to you. That takes a lot of dedication and effort. Be encouraged! Losing weight for health reasons is fantastic and we all support you. But, also realize... We are our own worst critics. Learn to love yourself no matter your weight. The beauty a person possesses comes from his/her willingness to share, to be compassionate to others, to open your heart to love others...even when it could hurt or be risky, and most importantly to live life with passion. You seem to possess these. You are already beautiful. Hugs! Be encouraged! We're all rooting for you, Kissyroo!!! :D


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Dec 17, 2006 18:30

I think that it is great that you are getting fit because you want to feel better and look better for you and no one else. I do believe that when we follow our heart and do something just because we think that it will make us happy, then we are successful in that endeavor. So I wish you many happy days of eating well, exercising and feeling good about yourself!! You are definitely on the right track!!


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Dec 16, 2006 16:54

Kissy,you r beautiful no matter what they say girl.I'm 48 and feel just as you do,but honey we've got to make the best of what we've got.Hey, I'll try losing with you,let's keep each other motivated,stay in touch babe


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Nov 06, 2006 08:30

Hey thanks to everyone for posting if I do not write to you personally.... worried wasper: thanks for all your comments. and ya I am 18, can't help but be the baby around these parts :) But If your daughter is anything like you I am sure she is awesome! LOL Rosy i love how you say broomsticks. : ) There is a store in our mall called wet seal and my mom and I call it the wet toothpick LOL. But in al seriousness thanks for the awesome post. Dirty angel? Rockn' name LOL but anyways.... you know i am just looking to loose a little of weight.. What about you? If you read this message i guess. But thanks for the note. Dmight22 you know you sound like my brother. he eats everything and plays videogames. No exercising and veggies. Nothing like that. And he is a skinny guy. but that is the humor of life right? Everyone is differant. Bigdaddykay. Cool name also..:) I get what you mean about your post. America is alot about skinny women being the 'good looking' women. But it should not be that way. Variety is the spice of life. : ) But WOW this is getting to be a long post. LOL An update on my side is happiness. I feel good right now and I think I am carrying my weight well. I think i want to start just keeping myself at the way i am now. I think I look good for once. But I guess i replied to everyone. I hope everyone has a good day!! KISSY


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Nov 06, 2006 07:22

Honey I did not know you are only 18. I think its normal to have lots of self issues. I have a daughter 18, you should talk to her!!!Same problems. Her name is Hannah Rose. She and I are born comedians, I even got my son to ask to go to Lane Bryants. He thinks EVERY thing is plus size and loves it, he is only ten.


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Nov 06, 2006 07:19

You know what? We all should have a get together, every one who can. Maybe even in the spring! We have a place her in TN called Dolly Wood, after of course Dolly Parton. Or even go to myrtle beach. Just let your self go!!!Cuz You seem to be such a beautiful , and sensitive soul. I bet you would have fun if we had a get together! Maybe over at Biltmore estates, they say its awesome!!!!!!!!!! You can talk to me anytime. I am kinda weird and bubbly! Tee Hee


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Nov 06, 2006 00:29

If you are doing it in a healthy way then good luck. It is important that we be able to look in the mirror and feel self confident about our looks. I have the problem of my metabolism being too high. I have to eat 3000 calories a day just to mantain my current weight. It is amazing how many times I hear "Have you eaten today?" in a day by complete strangers. So I can't say I know how you feel, but I do know what it is like to not have confidence in your body. Just be healthy when losing weight and hopefully one day you can find beauty in your body with whatever form it takes.


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Nov 05, 2006 21:06

It is amazing how many women in America are never satisfied. I love full figured women..I believe i am wired to love full figured women...so i think all of you guys out there are beautiful...i need just one to be mine..by the way..there has to be variety on this increasingly small planet so everyone cannot look the same...try very hard to love yourself first because if you dont believe you are beautiful regardless...then you have lost half the battle of life...


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Nov 04, 2006 15:48

just wanted to say good for you!!.. i too am not happy with the way i look and also get hammered with lovely compliments that i find difficult to take.. i'm trying to do something about it and have lot 37lbs and 2 dress sizes so far but it's tough going.. i get support from the people around me and tend not to mix with people who try to 'sabotage' my efforts, albeit innocently.. the entries here have been a great inspiration and i thank you all.. great blog kissy.. i wish you all the luck and success in the world.. much love xDAx


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Nov 04, 2006 10:46

hello Kissy, I understand you completely, you see I was born small, they even make fun of me at home becaue my mom had me prematurely and all of my sisters and brother were much bigger than I was. But that was back in the day!!! Lets just say I filled in beautifully!! I grew up with remarks like "you're fat and ugly" from my brother and other kids all of the time. I would go crying to my mother and she would ask me "And are you ugly?' To this I would always answer no. I may be big but ugly I am not!!! I have always had a big figure but after my kids it got bigger and I hated my body, but you know what even with that dislike for it, I still looooooved myself, and my mother says that she did wrong with helping me when I was small because now I have tooooooo much self confidence!! I believe that media has everything to do with what and how we feel about ourselves. That is wrong because we may see television and read these magazines, where women are portrayed as beautiful, sexy broom sticks (no offense meant), and we end up wanting to be broomsticks!! But we have to love ourselves for who we are, yes there might be a little more to love but its all good!!! Kissy I really give you promps for loosing weight, but girl you have to love what is inside first!! Than you will truly radiate as what you are! a BEAUTIFUL woman!!! p.s. I truly recommend the movie with Monique, Phat girls, it's funny and it will show you what I mean take care Rosy -aka- Muaaas4u


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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Nov 03, 2006 16:50

Thanks Wanda!! Those positive words are awesome. Thanks for the positivity Kissy


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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Nov 03, 2006 11:58

Kissy-here's some positive affirmations for you. I an be a winner. I am the best friend I have. I have solved problems like this before. I have the ability to handle this. I am a capable human being. I deserve to love and to be loved. I am a skillful and artistic person. I can show others a good example. Letting go is best for them and for me. They will thank me in the future. Nothing is worth losing my sanity over. I am responsible only for my own feelings. I am a deserving human being. I deserve to enjoy the fruits of my labor. I deserve to be rewarded for what I do. I love myself for who I am. It is OK to be selfish if I don't hurt anyone. I like the way I handle problems. I am able to handle any problem I face. I have the right to feel the way I do. My children will benefit from my healthy changes. My children will survive my healthy changes. My family will benefit from my relaxing more. I deserve to relax more and take it easy. There are beautiful things happening in my life daily. I experience the excitement of growth daily. Change is a blessing I am working toward. Taking risks is the path to growth. I grow in love daily. I face each new day as a race to be won. I am winning in the race of life. I am a rich treasure ready to be found. Let others know who I am. Say hello to a new person today. Open up to be loved today. Be responsible. Relax! Letting go is loving Be free of guilt today. To be loved I must love. There are opportunities in life to be tried. My possibilities are endless. Success is to be enjoyed. Open myself up with one new person today. Belief in self is a step toward personal growth. I can handle all changes that come my way. There is nothing I cannot handle. Smile and let others in on the secret Warm regards, Wanda


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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Nov 03, 2006 08:18

Thanks to all who have posted..... This week I have felt good. Not about the results but just eating a little healthier and exercising has made a difference. I feel on top of the world this week! man i hope i have another good week like this one. LOL how many times can i say 'week' in one paragraph...i don't know...Just Kidding! Thanks worriedwasper and kristy.... I know I hate going to the doctors office anymore. If I am sick all they end up talking to me about is my weight and stuff. I am like: hello? i am sick here! I think if something was growing on my back i would not want to go to the doctors office for months...LOL. Kristy ; i agree i decided I would not feel sorry for myself. I mean I have always been a 'big girl' in all aspects of the word. personality, bone structure, height, and my weight came with the package. I KNOW I will never be or want to be skinny. But maybe I just want to fit in my old jeans :) One time my mom went on Jenny Craig and she lost weight. She got down to a size 10 and looked sickly! Her body is just not built to be 'thin' necessarily and neither is mine. THANKS FOR ALL THE POSITIVE THOUGHTS >hug< Kissy


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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Nov 01, 2006 16:33

Honey, have you saw the reality show, Gene Simmons family jewels? He says , it does not matter if you are fat or thin, young or old........you gotta love you, then he says" Do I love me, yes I am gorgeous" coming from a fire spitting demon (with a giant tonge that ............oops better not get to graphic. Think of your friends, did you ever think of them as fat or thin. I have been on a diet since first grade. Or fourty years, and I have the problems you have. Love your self darlin, I can tell you are super sweet. I get on the damn scale at my docs office and it spins 3 times around.........joking....LOL you are not alone honey. talk to me ANYTIME> huggs from Tennessee!!


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Veröffentlicht am Tue, Oct 31, 2006 18:14

We ALL have issues. Yes. It's true! But I don't let my "personal" issues rule my life! Do I love my jelly? No. I don't. I want as much of it gone as I can get off! But do I hate looking at myself because I am fat? No. I love making myself pretty. Fat or not. There is nothing wrong with a fat girl wanting to feel good about herself, even if she doesn't like the fat! Would I rather be fat or skinny? That's like asking me if I wished I'd had different parents. My father was an abusive alcoholic and my mother dug her head in the sand to ignore it. But growing up the way I did has made me the person I am today.. and I must toot my own horn here and say that I am glad to be who I am. I am a caring, compassionate woman who loves life and tries to not take anything for granted. No, I wouldn't ask to be skinny. I wouldn't change growing up as the "fat" twin. Because if I hadn't been that fat girl in school, I wouldn't be who I am today... and I am damn proud of myself. Be who you are, love yourself no matter what you look like and you will have a wonderful, fulfilling life. WHY WAKE UP EVERYDAY NOT BEING HAPPY ABOUT YOU? YOU CAN'T BE ANYONE ELSE!!!


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Veröffentlicht am Wed, Oct 25, 2006 09:48

Hey covergirl. Thanks you know I have been thinking about that too. All these women say that which it may be true, but everyone has Something that they don't like about themselves physically. And you know what, I wouldn't care if I was 400 lbs, but if i looked and felt confident then that is just a number. I Hate it when you go to the doctors office and they tell you to get on the scale and tell you that your obese. I mean OK i know I am overweight but i am in no way obese. i talked to one of my fitness instructors and they said the BMI (body mass index) said she was overweight!! And she is like a size 6; but she has more muscle. So I am officially only looking at the scale every month or so. The numbers are just bringing me down and I shouldn't care what they are. I think that was me venting... When I came on this sight all these guys are saying that they like big gals. And I thought I understood but i guess i cannot grasp it. They say they like the rolls, jiggles, and wiggles; and i guess i cannot comprehend that someone could like something I hate. But I hope everyone has a good day. kissy


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Oct 23, 2006 08:36

Thanks Wanda, I know what you mean. Middle school and Highschool were the thing I everhad to do and it propably lowered my self esteem (stinky thinking). Me being Tall and larger and a little too outspoken did not get me in with the popular crowds if you know what i mean. I think that was ok though I did not want a click and it built up my character. Thanks Amuse Me i will check out that site. I like to go to a Layne Bryant Outlet 9it's a nice brand new one too) store but it is like an hour away. I like to talk family or friends in to go with me on thw weekends.. Shopping is cooler with friends but no one else shops in the 'larger' sections so I drag 'em along with me. LOL But I hope everyone has a good rest of the day!!! kissy PS: I can't get a pedicure :( I don't like people touching my feet....I tried it once. But kudos to those of you who love 'em.


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Veröffentlicht am Mon, Oct 23, 2006 01:58

Great job you are doing Kissy! If we are going to change ourselves it needs to be because we want to feel better,enjoy better health or like the way our body looks because WE want it that way, not because someone else does. I spent a good part of my life trying to make my body appealing for a man, and ended up constantly listening to him complain about one thing or another that was wrong with my body. It didn't matter if I weighed 120 pounds and was swimming daily and exercisizing 3-5 times a week. Something always was just not right for him. When you are around someone like this after awhile you can start to pick up their "stinking thinking." It sounds like perhaps you have developed some of that stinking thinking from somewhere-our society, your peers,tv, or even family. Look online and see if you can't find a website that has postive affirmations-things that you can look in the mirror and tell yourself everyday, or can write on a piece of paper and place in your pocket and read several times a day. Start telling yourself every day that you love and approve of yourself and create your own sweetness and joy. Tell yourself several times daily that you recognize your own true self worth and that you are wonderful. Tell yourself you are at home and comfortable with your body. We can reprogram our minds and eliminate the stinking thinking. Our loving Creator blessed us abundantly with the power and ability to create happiness,peace,harmony, joy, and forgiveness within us. We just have to utilize that power. You'll find that the more you practice this, the more others will mirror the love and self approval you have. The people and environment you surround yourself with too can affect your thoughts and feelings. I work in a stressful environment with some very unhappy people so I have to be careful and ensure that when I am not at work that I fill my life with positive,happy energy and people. If I don't I too can succumb to various forms of stinking thinking. We just need to remember that we are the ones in control of our thoughts. We can create our own happiness. Go create your own life and your body-the way YOU want it. You have the energy, the strength and the ability to paint it whatever colors you choose! It wil be beautiful, because it is uniquely yours!


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Oct 22, 2006 21:20

I have one word for you. Splurge on a gorgeous dress. Put it on. I GUARANTEE YOU you will be pleased. You will look at yourself in the mirror and say.."Oh, my god. I never knew!" .. buy the right clothes. Shop at stores that make clothes excluesively for bigger women like Romans, Layne Bryant, etc.. those clothes are MADE to fit bigg butts. Get designer.. I can get a pair of jeans at wal-mart that fit around the waist but are five sizes too big in the legs, just makes ya look frumpy.. get something from IGIGI and it totally fits every curve.. smooths the cheese and looks gorgeous at the same time! Take the time to touch up your face with nice, natural looking makeup (just to make yourself FEEL pretty!) get your eyebrows shaped! I don't even look the same when my brows aren't trimmed! ... get a haircut - often and pedicure AT LEAST once a month. You are beautiful girl, so why don't you WANT to feel beautiful? JUST DO IT! DONT MAKE ME COME OUT THERE TO MAKE YOU OVER! I WILL DAMNIT! LOL Tons of love my way to yours, ~Jo


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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