I have met several poly families over the last year and have been quite amazed at how well their relationships work. This is different than bigamy...in these relationships the parties have decided to have more than one other person be in their primary sexual and familial circle. Bigamy is more of a harem model.
So opinions? Is this shocking to you? Could you deeply love more than one partner and could you navigate the jealousy? Benefits? Drawbacks?
This is a fun game to learn a lil bit about each other. Reply as to whether the statement is true or false, then make one of your own about the next person to post (or, The person beneath you!)
Opps - should be the person above me!example:
top John Doe says: TPAM (the person above me) LIKES anchovies on pizza!
Jane Doe says: False. TPBM is in the Military... etc.. etc...
Get it? Got it? good!
Sooooooooo, the person above me(tpbm), loves crossword puzzles.
A woman and a man are involved in a car accident on a snowy, cold Monday morning; it's a bad one. Both of their cars are totally demolished but amazingly neither of them are hurt. God works in Mysterious ways.
After they crawl out of their cars, the man is yelling....about women drivers the woman says, "So you're a man. That's interesting. I'm a woman. Wow, just look at our cars! There's nothing left, but we're unhurt. This must be a sign from God that we should meet and be friends and live together in peace for the rest of our days".
Flattered, the man replies, "Oh yes, I agree with you completely, this must be a sign from God!" But you're still at fault...women shouldn't be allowed to drive.
The woman continues, "And look at this, here's another miracle. My car is completely demolished but this bottle of wine didn't break. Surely God wants us to drink this wine and celebrate our good fortune." Then she hands the bottle to the man. The man nods his head in agreement, opens it and drinks half the bottle and then hands it back to the woman. The woman takes the bottle and immediately puts the cap back on, and hands it back to the man.
The man asks, "Aren't you having any?"
The woman replies, "No. I think I'll just wait for the police...."
MORAL OF THE STORY:
Women are clever, evil bitches.
Don't mess with us.
1. A man comes into the ER and yells, "My wife's going to have her baby in the cab!" I grabbed my stuff, rushed out to the cab, lifted the lady's dress, and began to take off her underwear. Suddenly I noticed that there were several cabs - and I was in the wrong one. Submitted by Dr. Mark MacDonald, San Antonio , TX
2. At the beginning of my shift I placed a stethoscope on an elderly and slightly deaf female patient's anterior chest wall. "Big breaths," I instructed. "Yes, they used to be," replied the patient. Submitted by Dr. Richard Byrnes, Seattle , WA
3. One day I had to be the bearer of bad news when I told a wife that her husband had died of a massive myocardial infarct. Not more than five minutes later, I heard her reporting to the rest of the family that he had died of a "massive internal fart." Submitted by Dr. Susan Steinberg, Manitoba, Canada
4. During a patient's two week follow-up appointment with his cardiologist, he informed me, his doctor, that he was having trouble with one of his medications. "Which one?" I asked. "The patch. The nurse told me to put on a new one every six hours and now I'm running out of places to put it!" I had him quickly undress and discovered what I hoped I wouldn't see. Yes, the man had over fifty patches on his body! Now, the instructions include removal of the old patch before applying a new one. Submitted by Dr. Rebecca St. Clair, Norfolk, VA
5. While acquainting myself with a new elderly patient, I asked, "How long have you been bedridden?" After a look of complete confusion she answered, "Why, not for about twenty years -- when my husband was alive." Submitted by Dr. Steven Swanson, Corvallis, OR
6. I was caring for a woman and asked, "So how's your breakfast this morning?" "It's very good, except for the Kentucky Jelly. I can't seem to get used to the taste" the patient replied. I then...
What is your definition of a slut? Seems everyone has their own version. And is being a slut necessarily a bad thing? And how come men never get judged negatively by their sexual endeavors? How come when the folks at work find out who a man is sleeping with he gains power and when they find out who a woman is sleeping with she loses power?
So do you think there is a perfect mate for you and you just need to find them or that there are many near perfect mates and you just need to be ready and open to them and then do the work?
This has been an ongoing favorite conversation that one of my best friends and I having been having for over a decade. She believes in "the one" - which in her mind (years ago) granted her permission to go after men already in relationships or to cheat on fellas that she is supposed to be in monogamous relationships with - as in "but, he might be the one and I have to find out" But for me, I think that there are likely more than one mate out there for us to find - not settling by any means but recognizing that relationships require work and that work often requires reframing and at times compromise. What do yall think?
a friend sent me this - thought yall would get a laugh too.
WHY CHOCOLATE IS BETTER THEN SEX
1. You can GET chocolate.
2. "If you love me you'll swallow that" has real meaning with chocolate.
3. Chocolate satisfies even when it has gone soft.
4. You can safely have chocolate while you are driving.
5. You can make chocolate last as long as you want it to.
6. You can have chocolate even in front of your mother.
7. If you bite the nuts too hard the chocolate won't mind.
8. Two people of the same sex can have chocolate without being called nasty names.
9. The word "commitment" doesn't scare off chocolate.
10. You can have chocolate on top of your workbench/desk during working hours without upsetting your work mates.
11. You can ask a stranger for chocolate without getting your face slapped.
12. You don't get hairs in your mouth with chocolate.
13. With chocolate there's no need to fake it.
14. Chocolate doesn't make you pregnant.
15. You can have chocolate at any time of the month.
16. Good chocolate is easy to find.
17. You can have as many kinds of chocolate as you can handle.
18. You are never too young or too old for chocolate.
19. When you have chocolate it does not keep your neighbors awake.
20. With chocolate size doesn't matter; it's always good
This bad advice thread was on another site and was loads of fun. Thought it might do fairly well here. Here is the object of this thread. Someone asks for advice and you then give it to them but give them the worst advice possible. You then post your own question. See examples below and find first Q at the end.
Note: None of the advice is to be followed... if you do follow the advice you are solely responsible for the results... plus you should really be sedated.
1st. A request for advice is posted like so:
Q. I want to get rust stains out of my toilet... how do I do that?
2nd. Next you quote my Q like so:
quote: I want to get rust stains out of my toilet... how do I do that?
3rd. And follow with your very worst advice like so:
Advice: Use a sledge hammer.
4th. Then in your same post you now ask for advice like so
Q. I'm pregnant, but I'm not sure I'm the mother. Should I tell my husband?
Next post goes like so:
quote: I'm pregnant, but I'm not sure I'm the mother. Should I tell my husband?
Advice: It would be best if you ran a full page ad in the daily paper asking your question.
Q. How often should I change the oil in my car?
Next post goes like so:
quote: How often should I change the oil in my car?
Advice: Every Feb 29... like clockwork.
Q. How do I tell my parents I?m gay?
Next post goes like so:
quote: How do I tell my parents I'm gay?
Advice: Singing showtunes at Thanksgiving Dinner while wearing a thong and looking longingly at a portrait of your lover held tightly against your chest...asking everyone 'Aren't they yummy?'
Q. I found a box of old dynamite in my basement, how do I know if it's still good?
Next post goes like so:
quote: I found a box of old dynamite in my basement, how do I know if it's still good?
Advice: Take it to your next bonfire at the beach and use them as sticks to toast your marshmallows.
Okay Got it? I need some very very bad advice on the following:
Q. I saw my neighbor kicking his dog. What should I do?
If you had the magical power to hit any living person in the face with a pie...
Who would the target be and what pie would you use?
I would hit
Dick Cheney with a pot pie (with a little buck shot in it).
Rush Limbaugh with a hot pecan pie (bubbling from the oven)
And I am accepting applicants for a face covered in strawberry rhubarb pie, that I get to lick clean. ;-)
Hey LF folks - thought we all probably have some great low fat low salt low sugar recipes and/or cook book recommendations that would be helpful to Bizz in his journey to repair his heart. Plus I would love to mine the wealth of good cookin that I know yall do. So plug in and post a recipe, healthy eating tip, cookbook or resource and maybe we can help out Bizz and each other too.
On Salt - Morton has a great full salt substitute that we've been using and I am picky.
Cook books: Check out some of the better vegetarian books like Greens, or the Vegetarian for Everyone by Summerville. They are veggie but yummy veggie and tend to fall in the guidelines of heart healthy and diabetic. My pop has been struggling with heart and diabetes issues too, our goal is to keep his kidney function from failing which is very touch and go.
Below is a quote on a newer book that is out with a great web site. Kurma has several books that are good. Below that is another one that is good and lastly is a recipe that we like which I picked up and adapted from the cooking Light web site which is a wealth of recipes and menus.
"The great cuisines of the world, many of which are largely vegetarian, are the basis for Kurma Dasa's latest collection of recipes, presented in a clear, concise style and appealingly illustrated with lots of colour photography. Quick Vegetarian Dishes is colourful, healthy (and easy-to-prepare) food that's perfect for everyday cooking - even if you're not a vegetarian."
(Australian Gourmet Traveller, February 2001)
The Perfectly Contented Meat-Eater's Guide to Vegetarianism: A Book for Those Who Really Don't Want to Be Hassled about Their Diet Reinhardt, Mark W., Continuum , 1999
Speedy Chicken Stew
1 (20-oz) package frozen creamed corn
1 (10-oz) package frozen baby lima beans
1 large baking potato, peeled and diced
1 small jalapeno pepper, seeded and minced (optional)
1/2 large sweet onion, diced
1/8 teaspoon ground red pepper
1/4 teaspoon dried thyme
6 skinless chicken thighs simmered in 8 cups of water, bay leaves, thyme and pepper corns for 30 minutes then remove thighs and cool and pull from the bone
1 (14 1/2-oz) can seasoned diced tomatoes with garlic, basil, and oregano
1 (6-oz) can tomato paste
Better than Bouillon chicken Paste if needed
Cook chicken and remove from broth cool and pull from bone. Use liquid(strain)from the simmered chicken (approx 8 cups for your liquid). Combine liquid and first 7 ingredients in a Pot. Bring to a rolling simmer over medium-high heat, stirring often. Reduce heat and simmer 15 to 20 minutes or until potatoes and lima beans are tender. Stir in chicken, diced tomatoes, and tomato paste; simmer 10 more minutes. If more chicken flavor is needed add little bit of "better than bouillon" chicken paste but be careful as this is very salty.
Adapted from Southern Living, FEBRUARY 2003
Back in my old chefing days we always had a question of the day to get the energy going in the kitchen and between the front and back of the house. One of the best was what makes you happy. It was interesting how difficult this q was for some folks to answer. Some answers were complicated, "world peace", "being in love"...but some were really simple, "finding a cold beer in the fridge"....So I was wondering if for the folks who come here.... What makes you happy?
So think back, remember a time in your life when you took a leap of faith and did something risky ? like pursue love,
quit your job,
chase a dream?
Can you recall the key beliefs, thoughts or circumstances that made it possible for you to take that fearful risk?.What does it take, what needs to be present for you to take a leap of faith? And what was it you did that was so risky? Everyone has a great story on this topic I am sure.
For me well I can be bit risky and bold yet I still get stuck and have to work hard to get up the faith to leap but the more I do leap the easier and easier making a leap becomes.
My three biggest leaps were: 1st in my 20?s moving to San Francisco with only $500 in my pocket.
The 2nd, was to become a full time student in my 30?s.
The 3rd time was to start a non profit. In each instance everything has turned out well and the key beleif and factor was that I had to have faith in my smarts and ability to take care of myself and those who I care about.
But leaping into someone's arms, life and heart and letting them leap into mine is the next step and by far the biggest and most frightening.
How about you? What does it take, what needs to be present to make the leap to love be successful?
I was wondering if I might be unique in that once I have made a connection online - I want to meet the person face to face asap. I trust my instincts better in person and figure its best to go ahead and move things into the real world to see if potential really exists. I would love to hear how others pace meeting their online connections in person. Any advice thoughts greatly appreciated.