It seems like I've been at it for years now...searching for someone who is actually interested not only in me for me but in a real relationship. Why is it that dating sites and clubs only make you feel like you aren't good enough for others to really want to get to know you not just get in your pants as fast as physically possible? I do not get it and it's emotionally exhausting.

Call me a dreamer but I feel like it shouldn't be this hard to find someone who sees the value and worth in you and wants to be there. Someone who enjoys your smiles, your laughs, the little things that make you you. Someone who geniunely doesn't want to spend the rest of their life jumping from bed to bed and half the time thinking up excuses to cut and run.

I joined this site because I thought maybe if I start with a group of people that are all shapely like myself there is less judgement and more acceptance that it would give me a chance of finding that person. So here is to hoping ... to finding a guy who is true and geniunely interested in me as a person.

anyone interested in putting together a face to face meeting or mixer it's the only way to weed out the phony and fake from the real deal I've done them before and they been very very successful.

Yep I feel you it seems most say one thing and have a totaly differnt agenda, or have serious un treated mental issues! I am not judgemental just want the real and someone who is focused on self but is emoitionaly available. too much maybe.....

Yep I feel you it seems most say one thing and have a totaly differnt agenda, or have serious un treated mental issues! I am not judgemental just want the real and someone who is focused on self but is emoitionaly available. too much maybe.....

I am having a real hard time weeding out people.

Relationships are always a work in progress. So many frogs to kiss (if you chose to).  I can only say  WHEN you find the right one ... Work even harder to keep him . Good luck

I am having the same problem. I'm Widowed and now just getting back into the dating. Problem I'm having is everyone is too far and from what I have met. Most don't really know what they want. I met my Wife on a dating site and was with her 18 years married for 4 years. So I have a pretty good track record,  I think. I am getting down myself on this dating. Oh well chin up deep breath and keep moving forward. I don't like being alone. Someone has got to be out there!!

I feel the same way; however, I am having the same difficulties.  People I am interested in are not responding and I am getting emails and winks from people I am not interested in.  Very disgusted at this point.  I hope you are more successful.