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Posted on Jun 28, 2006 at 01:26 PM

Hi, my wife was a large woman, and I loved it...she had surgery to be thinner and more attractive?? well she found out she is now 110 lbs. Her face is no longer tight or is anything else..I married her because she was large. Now skinny... She was ashamed of seeing herself naked when heavy and now she lost all the weight?? Wont look in the mirror or want to be naked in front of me or in front of the mirror....dave

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Posted on Jun 28, 2006 at 01:14 PM

Beautiful is beautiful it has nothing to do with size. The only size that really matters is the size of your heart.

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Posted on Jun 28, 2006 at 07:43 AM

When I met my wife 20 years ago, she was a "big girl". Up to & including today, tomorrow and forever, it has NEVER occurred to me what other people think. You see, I'm 5'1" (she is 3 inches taller than me) & as anyone who is "different" can tell you, there are 2 choices..1 is to hide away from the world, ashamed of who you are, & the 2nd one is to say "I don't give a toss what you think, here I am!" Anyone with a problem? Well, that is THEIR issue, not ours. We opted for the 2nd one. As for the person who said something about being in the military & confidence, you are 100% correct...I was in the R.A.F. for 9 years.

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Posted on Jun 28, 2006 at 06:24 AM

iam a bbw sometimes i think alot of men want a skinny women they dont see what is on the inside of a person, but what is on the outside, the last guy i dated some years ago never took me out any where just came to my house. let him go. the man iam with now doesnt seem to mind he likes what he sees. sometimes people can be so sallow. we have feeling to and a heart that is bigger than the world and love to give our hearts out.

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Posted on Jun 28, 2006 at 02:44 AM

I am a big woman, but not 300 pounds and I am invisible. Men look passed me instead of at me. I am a gorgeous woman, with a big body and nothing is wrong with that, but men don't give me the time of day. I am 44 and lonely and it's a shame. I am not going to lose weigh to have a man. If a man can't find the passion in a big woman like myself then who needs them?

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Posted on Jun 26, 2006 at 09:36 AM

Hi cutieme! My experiences have been vastly different, having been married before my husband never cared what size I was and it was never an issue. Past relationships have differed with many man only wanting to stop at home with me and not been seen out together for fear of ribbing from their friends! Found that the men that are usualy least to care about size of their women are military men, must be the confidence they have!

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Posted on Jun 23, 2006 at 09:08 AM

Hello everyone im new here im only 22 :( but i dated my ex for 3 years and his mom had a problem with me being chubby not even fat she said its ok if you gain weight after marriage but your supose to be skinny before ( i was in tears)

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Posted on Jun 22, 2006 at 03:16 PM

I was reading thru the comments and seems theme is that guys don't want to be seen as "desperate". Since when is extra meat on your bones make you the the last resort? I just don't get it. I have never been in relationship where I was made to feel I wasn't to go in public with my bf, perhaps its a personality issue, I would not let myself be with anyone that didn't accept me. I think some people are just morons and they take it too far. Like when I see stickers no cars that say NO FAT CHICKS ALLOWED, that makes me so annoyed (and I can laugh at their tacky attempt at humor)! God sakes its your preference to not date/socialize with fat gals, but do you have to make it a proclamation to make someone else feel less attractive? Are all skinny girls that damn great? I say to each his or her own, just don't be so hateful about it. (My sticker would read (if I were that insensitive NO SKINNY UPTIGHT AHOLES ALLOWED).

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Posted on Jun 22, 2006 at 11:49 AM

Well being a lover of the BBW and especially the BBBW - for sure Rubenesque and busty just do it for me - being a very tactile person and into PDA and handholding well for sure i want to be seen out with her - i suppose i want it all and to me it seems like bigger ladies just have lots more of whatever it takes to make me go WOW

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Posted on Jun 22, 2006 at 07:52 AM

A local comedian once said "Fat girls are like mopeds. They're fun to ride but you don't want your friends to catch you doing it!" The men in the bar hooted and hollered! When you are young, you may feel that way. There are men out there that truly love a feminine body. I've been on plenty of dates without any problems!

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Posted on Jun 15, 2006 at 04:32 AM

I suppose that depends on how shallow the person is, I think it goes both ways I feel the same being a big guy, and I think it's more of a issue in the UK as the USA look at FAT people differently. Not that you should have a problem!

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Posted on Jun 15, 2006 at 12:22 AM

Confidence and charisma conquers most prejudice narrow minded people have about big people. carry yourself with pride, thats my moto, take me as i am or leave me, its your loss. lack of confidence makes a big person look ugly, take pride in yourself an dlove yourself for who you are and faces will turn towards you positively with envy.

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Posted on Jun 14, 2006 at 11:02 PM

My ex husband was very ashamed of me. I could see the look of disgust in his eyes all the time. I wasn't happy that after the kids I put on weight, but it happened. Then I did a drastic diet thing with lots of working out, started to lose weight and tone up. He still didn't think it was enough. I left him. Even though I left still loving him, I have gained some self confidence back and know that I am worth my than my weight.

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Posted on Jun 14, 2006 at 11:23 AM

i have not had the fortune of being in a relationship with a bbw woman but am really looking forward to it. i am just out of a relationship where i was disatisfied with my partner because she just did not have the curves and size that i was looking for. you ladies are so sexy, i just want to say thanks to all of you beacause you truly are the hottest things going.

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Posted on Jun 14, 2006 at 09:47 AM

Hi, been a while since I've posted. This is because I've met the most wonderfull woman in the world, and I met her on this site too! We are moving in together in the next few weeks. My girlfriend is very big and I'm glad to be seen with her...not cos of size, but because she's such a beautiful person .full stop. Girls, there are guys who like bigger girls, dont give up! Guys, there are girls out there who want more than your wallet! LOL. Hopefully my girl and I will post under the 'success stories' heading (If she agrees!) but to EVERYONE, MALE / FEMALE. There IS someone for you. If it happened for me, it can happen for you. GOOD LUCK ALL!"!! Luv Paul.

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Posted on Jun 13, 2006 at 05:16 AM

I guess ill add my opinion ... i dont care what someone else thinks im not ken and i had barbie ( wasnt impressed ) if your happy with you and want to go out then lets go . if your unhappy then get happy then lets go .. ive found bbw are far more caring of them selves and others than barbie ever was .. and i cant stand pink on everything anyway :P

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Posted on Jun 12, 2006 at 10:38 PM

Well I've got some bad news and worse news. The bad news is if you think that all guys want is a Barbie, you'd be right for the most part. And that's the self-defeating Bu11$#!t you buy into from all these Beauty Nazis who say big is ugly and no man could ever want a fat woman. That's why alot of girls become psychotic about their weight and that causes alot more health problems then just being fat. All this is is negative self talk that you end up telling yourself to give you an excuse not to freaking try. The worse news is that guys don't change in a day. We are very stubborn and don't change our minds very easily. If you find yourself with a guy who is really reluctant to be seen in public with you drop his a$$ like a bad habit. If you ladies think you can change a man you've got another thing coming. Think about it why should he change if you've already fallen for him the way he is. I hope this helps you realize the truth.

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Posted on Jun 12, 2006 at 12:56 AM

My experience with men dating me as a BBW has been very interesting. I married a very slender athletic man and he loved me the way I was. The only thing he asked was for me to try to be active and healthy. If I could be very active and still be big then he didnt mind the weight. He was in the military and then became a truck driver so he associated laziness with being fat. No matter how fat I got, as long as I was still active in every which way he thought of me as beautiful. On the other hand, I dated a man who would only come over to my house and hang out with me but never took me out in public. I figured he was a closet BBW lover and forgave him but let him go. Love me in private and parade me in public or else... ADIOS!!! BYE-BYE!!! SandraLee in Texas..

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Posted on Jun 11, 2006 at 08:39 PM

Hey,Here's my two cents! I think most men are embarrassed by us "BBW'S" unless they have the shallow Hal thing going on,unless they are really attracted to you as a bbw and except you as there true love,they won't parade u around in public cause they want better than what they have no matter what the woman is in there life,they are always looking at another,sorry but I've found it to be true,all men now a days want is a barbie! They want a Lil' hot to trot woman to treat them like crap and lead them on,most men can't handle a BBW cause we know how to love and treat a man right and that scares most of them to death!! truthfully Trifflin!

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Posted on Jun 07, 2006 at 10:50 PM

I could care less of what other people think. If we are having fun, I dont even notice other people around. Just stay out of my wake or road lane.

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