I often thought that us big women are less desirable to men due to our physical appearance. Thats when i was younger. i now look at the person inside but much more. I still look for the traditional values in a man but there are a lot of hard working women nowadays, who are successful and as a result we no longer look for a man to take careof our every need, and become our provider, but can we just accept anyone fairly presentable? Can we actually respect a partner if things we value as desirable are lacking in them? Can we actually fall in love with someone who we are struggling to respect? is there a balance or compromise to this. am 41 and struggling to find a man i can genuinely fall for.