Music choice tonight…The Little Willies (old fashioned twang country)
Drink choice…Ice tea (sometime nothing but the classics will do.)
I’ve been reading articles on online dating. I came across one that offered advice to guys. The article stated that nice girls don’t make the first move and if they do, they generally reek of desperation (his words not mine). The rebel in my wants to scream at the author “Some of us “nice girls” will make the first move and maybe the problem is you’re choosing girls instead of women.” But the truth of it is, I’ve been waiting for a guy (any guy, it seems) to make the first move. Most of the time, I’m not sure what to say even after they do. So I have 2 questions for you:
Girls – What would it take to get you to make the first move? What’s your best opening line?
Guys – Is it a bad thing for a woman to make first contact? What is the one thing she could say to make you not want to talk to her again?
I started the night rocking early Bon Jovi moved to Van Halen (absolutely no Van Hagar) a little Aerosmith, and ending with a bit of Joan Jett and Queen. It's not even alcohol induced. Just a need to blow off some steam the old fashioned way.
Today is day 1. My profile has been created and approved. With a bottle of wine and good music playing, I check my account. No winks, no emails, no one has even looked at my profile. I’m a little surprised by how disappointed I am. So I review my profile and I realize how little it actually says about me. Is it me, or is it incredibly difficult to paint a picture of who I am in a few “attention grabbing” phrases? I spent all day thinking about how I could beef it up and came up blank. I’m me…no catchphrases, no games, just me. Maybe if I started with why I’m joined the site… I have just finished reading a series of very spicy books. There was attraction, romance, conversation, controversy, break-ups and makeups. I started to wonder if I would ever experience the emotional roller coaster of meeting someone new and a thought hit me. I may never experience the intense agony of a break up or the euphoric joy of a makeup if I don’t put myself out there to try. I know that ideally, no one wants to go through the pain of a breakup, but isn’t the ups and downs of a relationship better than the flat line of being alone? So I joined. But it still doesn’t help my pitiful profile. What words would I use to describe myself?...Well that depends on the day of the week. Today, I felt powerful and sensual; yesterday, I felt powerful, but alone; tomorrow, is anybody’s guess, maybe shy and flirty. I asked my friends for good descriptions. One said “Brutally honest, but without malice.” I’m still trying to determine if that is a good thing. One said “inquisitive and astute” I like that although I’m not sure how relevant it is. I even heard, “Trustworthy and Dependable”…doesn’t that make me sound like a vacuum cleaner? Anyone looking for a Hoover? Maybe day 2 will be better.